Hi all,

I hope you're good. I'm in a position with a girl I met on Hinge, that I can't figure out. We met for a date at the beginning of August and it was good. Then she was busy for like a month and I started to become frustrated as I feel it is bad for momentum. I didn't seem to want to ask her out all the time or seem needy. However, she barely responds on whatsapp/is never online. She says this is due to being busy at work. Then she asked me if I wanted to come to Sweden with her for a short holiday (wtf) after one date and barely speaking on WhatsApp as she's always busy. I said no 1) its short notice 2) I think we should meet locally again for date. We went on another date last week and it was good, stayed out late drinking. On the date, She said she really wants kids in next few years even though we're both in our mid/late 20s..no one has ever talked about kids to me on a 2nd date. I went for a kiss at end of the date and she was very nervous/shy and basically said its too early for that. I don't kiss for pleasure (no gratification out of a peck on the lips), I only wanted to kiss to gauge her level of attraction, so I was disappointed.

To summarise: Her slow/non responses on text don't seem to be due a lack of interest, barely speaking and then inviting someone on a holiday with you.. is just odd. She seems like she wants something very serious, yet a kiss on date two seemed too much. Since Friday she hasn't responded on whatsapp, how can we build up momentum if in interim between meeting we don't talk? She also said on the date that it may be 2-4 weeks before we meet again, which I don't find reasonable.

What would you guys do? Its frustrating!