Does anyone here really not like relationships that much?

pnadlerlaw · 2019-09-30T12:22:09+00:00

Dude, I’m extroverted, and after 22, as a guy, your interest in sex just naturally goes down.

When I was 16, I literally took a Maxim magazine in front of my best friend at the time, and told him, “Dude, I have to go bust a nut in your bathroom.” I was jerking off in his bathroom with him right outside, and despite hearing him laughing his ass off, I was able to get off ... twice ... to fucking Maxim.

When I was 15, my parents left for the day, and I jerked off 11 times in like 8-9 hours. My penis was burning from all the blood flow, I popped a blood vessel and it swole up to the size of a baseball. I was running it under cold water for like 30mins and put an ice pack on it.

Now, I can’t even look at porn. I either feel disgusted (mostly) or get depressed thinking about the gender politics behind it all.

At 18, if I wasn’t having sex within the first 3-5 dates the latest, I was moving on to someone else. Then, it was 2-3 dates. And even then, it wasn’t really about the sex.

Sex was extremely political. And for as long as sex was extremely political, and about power and control, and bargaining, then it wasn’t really enjoyable. The only sex that was enjoyable was the one that was honestly given and exchanged for nothing more than the opportunity to have sex with you and experience you. How can anything else compete with that emotional experience?

But by the time you get to 21-22, that cup/tank is full. Then what? Your interest in sex is no longer the same. 9.5/10, been there done that. Girl you just met hinting at wanting to go somewhere more private to have sex, been there done that. Girl coming on strong and communicating that she strongly desires you sexually, been there done that. It’s like going to Six Flags for the 15th time. After 3-5 times, it’s not fun anymore.

It gets to the point where you feel disgusted to even look at a vagina. You can’t even watch porn anymore. Why do you think guys feel so disgusted after they get off? The idea of sex is ruined. It doesn’t have the same magic it did between 15-21.

Now, vagina represents work, not pleasure. Vagina represents politics and power games, not some innocent or genuine human connection. Vagina represents disappointment, not happiness. As does the entire naked female body.

So, it’s very normal to feel the way you feel, especially as you get older.

Why do you think so many guys go fishing, or hunting, or bowling, or golfing, or boating, or camping? They’ve lost interest in sex, and they’re looking to find some kind of other pleasure in life.

It’s an adjustment, but there are worse adjustments to go through in life.

Thinkingard · 2019-09-30T14:58:09+00:00

I guess just date around and see if there is a person you want around. Maybe you didn’t click with girls bc your intention was sex not a good friendship but then again you need both.

WIA20XX · 2019-09-30T15:05:33+00:00

You are fucking lame chicks, that's all.

It's a harder problem than most to solve cause you really can't tell if the chick is going to be compelling at first.

The standard PUA solution here is to not get into relationships. Fuck a variety of chicks on a regular basis.

Have your standards, and the girl that meets the standards still has to drag you into the relationship to feel that she actually has won you over. Her investment and anxiety are key to keeping her interesting.

But the biggest problem is this one.

I'm fairly introverted and like to be alone most of the time

That just sets you to act like a passive female in the first place.

Introversion means you find social interaction draining not invigorating. If you act like this, no girl can ever be cool enough/interesting enough for you to be in a relationship with.

So double down on spinning plates and don't feel butt hurt about not liking relationships. Just own your flaws.

Title	Does anyone here really not like relationships that much?
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Date	September 30, 2019 9:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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