I was reading an article and came across something that was similar to what happened to me in the past.

Basically a year back I became friends and made lot of AFC mistakes. The usual too much texting, trying to always qualify myself not disagreeing with her etc. Funnily enough when I made my move we hooked up but I made a mistake of verbalising that I liked her and set up our next date. Next steps are pretty easy to spot now. She saw me as a provider or someone she can fall back on no longer a challenge etc. Few days later I got the too valuable, dont want to spoil what we have and ljbf speech. Sure enough being AFC I said to say ok but being pissed off as fuck I started to outright ignore her. I did meetup with her when it was a group setting but soon after I started avoiding those too. Anyways that being the first thing I did correctly. She still tried contacting me but for a group setting. I was not having any of that. I ignored her hard but she still tried to keep me as an orbiter.

What are your thoughts? If youre actually a valuable friend why do they try to keep you as an orbiter before giving up or chasing you?

The article for anyone wondering

1) Having Become Too Valuable as a Friend

Women are smart when it comes to fitting men in their lives. Most women are not content to have just one man in their lives; one lover, perhaps, but not just one man. Unless she has a very solid, very secure guy as her guy, a woman is going to tend to want backups, and men fulfilling different functions in her life.

I used to think it was malarkey when I heard women object, “I don’t want to lose him as a friend!” as a reason for not proceeding with romantic involvement with a man. I figured it was just a girl’s way of saying, “Sorry, I’m not really interested, but I’d like to continue receiving the benefits of friendship from you.”

In fact, while that is the case sometimes, sometimes it really is as she says; sometimes, a man simply becomes too valuable a friend and companion to risk possibly losing if a woman attempts a relationship with him and it fails.

This one’s not too difficult to solve. First, recognize that if you find yourself in this situation, you’re not going to make any headway with a girl like this so long as she continues to think that the best way to keep you as her friend long-term is to avoid romance with you. Second, you need to make that clear to her.

The way I’ve traditionally phrased things in these kind of situations is, “Look, maybe I just got the wrong idea. I think we’re both looking for something different here… I think it’s probably best if we go our separate ways and go live our own lives.”

She will protest, after all – she’s attracted to you, and she wants you as a friend – badly enough to override her attraction, in fact. Now suddenly, you’re exiting stage right, and she no longer gets to keep you as a lover or a friend.

Women’s typical reactions after this happens are to chase you down and get a lot more serious about moving things forward romantically with you. Because of how you phrase it, they come to fully accept that you are interested in them (strangely, even if you’re making out with women and physically escalating on them and spending a lot of time with them and doing your best to get intimate with them, they still never completely realize and accept your interest, much of the time, until you tell them you liked them as you are walking away). And once they fully accept you’re interested in them, and fully recognize as well that they are losing both a man they value highly as a friend, and a man they value highly as a potential mate, they tend to get serious in a hurry.

Expect fast sex after this from a girl you’d been hitting walls with who was attracted to you but simply valued you too highly as a friend.