"The first outdated software thread that we need to patch is our fear of rejection.

Imagine that you are in a coffee shop while vacationing in a city far from home. As you are paying for your beverage, you spot a beautiful woman who is sitting alone reading a book. You have the initial desire to start a conversation with her, and start walking in her direction. However, within seconds you start to feel nervous as fears and doubts begin to infiltrate your mind. After you have closed half the distance to her, the woman gazes up from her book and locks eyes with you. Using her hand, she combs her hair back behind her ear and gives you a small smile.

At this point your heart starts pounding faster in your chest. Your mind goes blank with the words you were going to say as your knees begin to slightly shake. She is only five feet from you now; four, three, two, one. The bell in the upper corner of the door rings as you decide to walk past her and out into the street.

Can you think of any rational reason why you should have feared saying ''hello'' to this woman? You will never see her again and there was no one else around to even judge you. While in hindsight your fear seems ridiculous, the outdated firmware running in your brain was doing its best to protect you. Had this same situation occurred 10,000 years ago at a watering hole in the Neolithic era, your very life may have been at risk. In a tribe of only 150 people, females of reproductive age would be highly coveted.

Had this woman already belonged to the tribal leader, he may have taken your advance as a threat and then promptly smashed a rock into your skull. Fortunately in modern day society, the threat of taking a rock to the head is not one you should likely concern yourself with while waiting in line at a Jamba Juice.

Other than being the recipient of bodily harm, your fear also stems from the consequences of social ostracism. If you interact with this woman, you could come off looking like a fool. This one woman could then gossip about you to all the other women in your tribe while they are all out together picking berries. Thus your advance could have resulted in you committing social suicide.

All the women in the tribe would have a preconceived view of you as a loser and none would want to risk their reputation by associating with you. Even worse you could be cast out of the tribe and left to fend for yourself.

While the tribal leader Chad might have been a bit of a dick who kept all the women for himself, at least he brought protection to your group and let you eat from the scraps of his kill. Now that you are left out on your own, you have a small chance of surviving. Most other tribes would not accept you and may try to kill you, and alone you are just a sitting duck for a hungry tiger.

Both death and social ostracism would bring your genetic lineage to an end. Your genes do not want what is best for you as a whole; they want what is best for them. In some degree, your person is just the vehicle through which your genes try to reach a future generation. Thousands of years of evolution have hammered these notions and fears into your head. While you can try to rationalize that these facts are no longer the case, your brain still wants hard evidence.

You must provide your brain with the proof it desires through the gaining of reference experiences in which you interact with women and then proceed not to die. Your high school class, college campus or office may represent a modern day tribe. In these environments your social reputation is somewhat at stake. Thus if you are completely inept at social interaction, it would be better to practice somewhere that you have anonymity. Living in a large city or traveling to new places is the best way to accomplish this."

Highly recommended this book.

https://www.amazon.com/Fundamentals-Female-Dynamics-Practical-Attracting-ebook/dp/B01DO6QVJ0/