Whatever I have seen and experienced till now it all concludes to only one thing that never get serious about someone, just have fun conversations with that person. The moment I have got serious or tried to be like dependent on someone it backfires. The other person starts distancing herself from me. I think whenever I have had sex as the main objective in my mind, the girl feels it. There is a certain change in body language when you start pursuing someone with a sexual intent. Girls specially feel it faster. Having fun conversations become difficult when sex is in the mind. I have decided to keep the conversations and fun the top priority and sex the last priority. Sex should just happen, it should not be a goal or objective.