I've been flirting with this girl, and I don't know what to do next..

2020-05-09T07:48:23+00:00

Next time you see her just be cool and be like "hey you wana get some coffee saturday?" And take it from there

WiseRedCup · 2020-05-09T07:23:54+00:00

GO FOR IT, fck all the tips and tricks that you may have seen here, just go for it dude. Don’t be so conscious about her liking or disliking you when you initiate, just be yourself. If things didn’t work out as you expected, another one will eventually come. Ask her for a date, tell her she is beautiful and you want to take care of her, tell her that your intentions are good. As long as you’re genuine, you’ve got nothing to worry about.

moe_sizlacks_nuts · 2020-05-09T07:13:48+00:00

Sorry if I don't understand the flairs in this sub.

plainbread11 · 2020-05-09T12:49:45+00:00

Being the devils advocate here— I’d always be wary of asking out people in service/customer facing jobs. Many times they’re being polite or nice. This, in my opinion, doesn’t count as an IOI. If, on the big chance you’re wrong, she doesn’t reciprocate and politely rejects you— what then? Yeah you might feel awkward for a bit but think about it from her point of view: she doesn’t know you, doesn’t know how you handle rejection, and as a woman is probably going to be at least a bit worried about her safety when she sees you.

I’d say to let this one do the chasing and come to you. In the meantime you can focus on other girls. If this one is interested, she’ll probably make the first move and it’ll be obvious (excuses to talk to you while not helping other customers, asking for your social media, etc.)

Source: I’ve asked out two waitress/barista types in my life. One rejected me and then the manager told me when I came in again that I shouldn’t be asking out the staff since it makes them uncomfortable (even though it was just the one person and it was a normal conversation asking her to coffee). The other situation had some light chat and flirting as I ordered my coffee, and then the barista came over to my table later as no one else was in the shop and I felt emboldened enough by that move to ask for her number.

alphanwar · 2020-05-09T13:01:52+00:00

Ask her out If she rejects its fine go next if not go for it

quinnmcd · 2020-05-09T13:34:44+00:00

This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:

A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept.
If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit.

No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.

For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person are fine as field should be directed to Ask Seddit (/r/askseddit), not to be confused with Ask Reddit.

Title	I've been flirting with this girl, and I don't know what to do next..
Author	moe_sizlacks_nuts
Upvotes	14
Comments	7
Date	May 9, 2020 7:13 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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