Client Question: "I’m friends with a girl that I have only met in person once, but when I ask her to do something, she always either flakes or doesn’t respond. Then after a while of me not contacting her, she will eventually again reach out to me.

However, last time when she flaked, I freaked out and lashed out at her, and told her that I really liked her and that it was very hurtful when she flakes me. Is there any chance of salvaging this relationship?"

First of all, there is nothing wrong with calling out and addressing the personal slight of someone continuously flaking on you. A confident person with high self-esteem would not put up with such behavior. However, you should have done so in a less reactionary sort of way.

It is good to set boundaries, and let people know what behavior is not acceptable to you, and that you have no interest in entertaining someone who does not respect your time. This is viewed as attractive, when done in a matter-of-fact and unemotional way, derived from a place of abundance.

The incorrect way of going about this (which is what you have done) is losing your composure, lashing out and emotionally vomiting your feelings to someone with whom you have yet to have established a relationship of any actual significance.

In addition to coming off looking incredibly needy, appearing overly invested in a relationship, in which the other party so far has little to no investment in, is one of the most surefire ways of killing it.

Girls want to sense that you also view a date as being a fun and interesting chance in which to explore the possibility of a potential relationship. They don’t want to sense that you are already overly invested in the date’s outcome prior to even meeting.

In these cases, it’s safer for the invited person to decline or avoid an offer, rather than chancing having the date go poorly and the other party becoming emotionally distraught over it.

With regards to why the person repeatedly kept hitting you back up after you stopped communicating with them, this often has to do with the person looking for validation.

Maybe they were sitting at home feeling lonely or undesired and decided to seek validation from the person who reliably serves as an unlimited source. The person providing the validation often wonders why they are not valued more. But how much do you value something that you view as being an easily attainable unlimited commodity?

Here is the hard truth: People will make time for those that they want to see. The number one thing that you can do is have such a significant and strong initial in-person interaction, that the other person would be excited to see you again.

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