I recently found the red pill and have been reading posts and sidebar material. I found this place while dealing with end of marriage due to wife's infidelity. She had a long distance video chat affair and decided she's not in love with me anymore. Fine.

Recently I was invited to a bbq party of a mutual friend couple that we have both known him for years. The ex-wife is friends with his wife, I've been friends with him since high school. He later texts me to let me know my ex will be bringing her affair partner with her to the party.

She'll obviously do whatever she wants, but I have a problem with my friend and think that's a shitty thing to do. I was pretty fucked up about the betrayal and not interested in spending time with this guy. I do know that were the roles reversed and my friend's marriage have collapsed in similar circumstances that I would not allow his wife to bring her affair partner to a party at my home.

I went from being the alpha of my high school social group to a beta husband due to thinking that was what I was supposed to do. I screwed up and the ex moved on. Okay. Not my turn anymore and I've learned something. What about having your friend's back?