Another birthday party- (f/m:15/10) international students in a guest house.
This time, I'll not tell the all story in a whole piece as I did in my last report. Rather, I'll give more weight on the self-feedback part and tell the relevant story pieces in each matters of that part.
-Outline-
- THE STORY OVERALL
- POST-FEEDBACKS
-mini outline-
1- Circle game as the most valuable game
2- Missing application of sequential compliance strategy
3- Successful application of microcalibration
4- My delivery
5- Important realisation: Verbal escalation was missing
6- Challenge of storytelling in a party
7- Calibration in date arrangement was missing
8- Social awareness as an attractivity parameter
9- Mysterious Verbally supported Kissclose- The best for pubic gatherings
10- Girl game: Giving IOIs to males
11- The challenge: Building comfort in a party
12- The challenge of continuing the game despite the unmet expectations
13- Having a DHV story ground liberated from sequancial context
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THE STORY OVERALL
- I applied her a lot of advanced kinos both publicly and privately.
- I microcalibrated very well- I kept the attraction alive even after compliance breakes
- She didn't comply with my test of going to a private place together
- She was interested in to be with me and kinoing me hard.
- She didn't clearly comply with a one to one date request
1- Circle game as the most valuable game
As Mystery also says there, Nightclub or Daygame infields are not the perfect places to make girlfriend, which is the highest success of the game. I used to plan to go to Amsterdam as early as possible to play daygame, but after I started to practice circle game and faced with a high possibility of having a beautiful and valuable girlfriend here, my plans have changed. I guess I'll be in this small student city at least 1 more month to practice my circle game. Maybe I can do some indirect daygames at parks here in the following days.
During the time, my thoughts on daygame have changed a lot. I realsed that it's much more easy to play but have much less valuable results and does not help my social calibration progress as much as circle/ indirect game does.
2- Missing application of sequential compliance strategy
I had 2 opportunity of going for kissclose in this party.
At the first, I isolated her at the corner and applied photo routine for a short period of time. After the photo routine, I tried to apply the question game 3, but my delivery was so bad that it didnt work- we didn't play it. I delivered it as a fucking pre-planned game. I shouldn't have talked about what I was doing (detailed in 13th part- Having a DHV story ground liberated from sequancial context). The transition from photo routine to question game was so unnatural. I could have continued with question game in this way- "The noises of cats are the cutest part of them haha. What's your cutest part ;)?" then I could continue with the favorite part of her on guys, lesbian porns, dicky-clitoris, her last kiss/ elbow kino and kiss-close.
The second one is where I'll talk about the sequential compliance.
She was sitting just next to me- she was kinoing me with her body. We were talking about past relationships and the features of guys/ girls we like. She was describing my physical features. I wanted to pull the trigger, and I did this time. But I did it too hard.
My plan was applying my classical kissclose- "Your hair is so soft- do you use head and showers?;)"
While we were sitting, I touched her hair and told her "hmm... I have very important question about your hair."
I did stand up and hold my hand behind to her and over my shower I told her- "come here"
She didn't comply at all.
I did it in a fucking very wrong way. As Lovdrop says- We need to apply compliance tests in small parts. Otherwise, it would be too much request and we would force the girl not to comply.
I should have done it in this way:
1- hey, sand up (while I was standing up)
2- Give me your hand
3- *while touching her hand* I have very important question about your hair
4- Come here
I dont say she would comply for sure; however, it would be a much more compliable test in this way.
3- Successful application of microcalibration
I feel I became natural in applying microcalibration. It's a very important social dynamic & I'm proud of myself because of that.
After her compliance breaks, I played cool- I rolled off naturally and hanged out with other people, played some party games and didn't cut the whole interaction with her. I felt the uncomfort she had from her face after I punised her by my IODs (we were kinoing hard beforeward). After a while, I sat in front of her and she started to give IOIs by kinoing me from my back. Then, we continued kinoing each other while we were talking (I was touching her legs and she was holding my arm).
4- My delivery (**anxiety is still here+ confidence and naturality are still not enough)**
I'm still very unnatural in late-sexual.comofort stage- I get anxious, I'm not that confident and my transitions from chit-chat to late-sexual.comfort gambits are not natural as I gave an example in the fist paragraph of the part Missing application of sequential compliance strategy.
However, I'm getting better. When I'm anxious, I can control my non-verbal communication channels- I adjust my voice, I stop my legs or arms from shaking. I'm getting relaxed also verbally- I hesitate less to go on with high levels of sexual escelation.
The more practice I do, the more my delivery is natural.
5- Important realisation: Verbal escalation was missing (**Not only kino but also verbal IOIs needed)**
When we think of A3 (male to female interest), we always focus on kinoing the girl. However, There is more than kinoing- verbal escelation. And especially when it comes to circle game where the target and you are not alone, it's not always possible to apply advanced kinos or going for kiss.
After a certain level of kinoing, verbal escelation increases the intimicy and sinciarity of the sexual interaction. While kinoing, building a verbal sexual connection is much more effective and natural than just kinoing the girl.
I realised it after I applied a verbal IOI- We were teaching each other some bad words in our languages & I said how sexy she says an Italian bad word she told me. She really enjoyed that and laughed a lot. I felt that it made our interaction much sincere, natural and less anxious- especially less anxious because there is a high sexual tension, which is not a bad thing of course, but releasing it a bit relaxes a lot. Additionally, according to the relife theory of humour, it makes laugh :)
6- Challenge of storytelling in a party (**Sound is too loud & people do not focus for long time)**
As I also mentioned in my 68th report (A directly indirect game report from an Underground Punk Party/ Belgrade daygame diaries), verbal abilities are not that valuable in laud places. Even if you can speak laudly, it's not possible to hold people's interest for a long time in such an atmosphere.
I started to tell my orgy experience to 5 people (the targed included), but after 4 minutes, people started not to listen even tho my delivery was good for normal conditions.
It's important not to tell long or complex stories during a party. I'll mentione that in a more detailed way in the 11th self-feedback matter of this reprot (*11th- The challenge: Building comfort in a party*).
7- Calibration in date arrangement was missing (She postponed it at one week later- you shouldn’t have accepted it)
We were invited to another party at 1.00 am. I invited some of my friends and the target- the targed wanted to go back to her room because she needed to study tomorrow, as she said.
She was talking about her future plans (they were really interesting btw- she, as a very successful law student, wants to be a manager in art museums in Florance). In a point, the conversation was broken by an external party factor which happened a lot that I dont even remember what it was (as I said, I'll mention about that at the 11th matter).
I continued by using the multiple thread theory: "We were talking about the chicken (something fun mentioned in the conversation)... I wonder about that... Uhmmm... What do you know about photography?"
She answered- She had street photography education in the past (wtf- I was shocked & impressed). I offered to do a street photography event 1 day later. She told that in the weekdays, she would study. I asked for weekend- she told "yeah.. let's stay in touch".
Firstly, it was a huge IOD not to want to meet during weekdays. After that much kinobacks and fun time we spent, I didn't expect that. Additionally, I led her to move a more convinitet place to talk because we were on the way people walked- she didn't comply to move. I really pissed of after that. I calibrated properly and turned my body away, started to look her over my shower. She started to kino me.
In the end, we agreed on the weekend in an uncertain way. I was not satisfied with the agreement. I didn't give her a goodbye hug after these compliance breaks. She sent me kisses by kissing her hands, which I think was not a strong close for both of us.
I left the room with my friends.
8- Social awareness as an attractivity parameter
My current target and another italian girl were very interested in me since the beginning of our interactions. However, I'm not attracted to the other italian girl at all. Not only because she is less beautiful than my current target, but also because she is really "not smart". She cannot play her game properly unlike my current target. She is not aware of social dynamics, which, I felt, is a very unattractive feature.
9- Mysterious Verbally supported Kissclose- (**The best for pubic gatherings)**
I was using the high-tension kissclose method in my solo set game times- going to kiss without mentioning about the kiss, and I thought Mysterious Kiss-close method is surprisingly stupid. However, I realised that in the circle game, acting in a microcalibrated way is deadly important because it affects your and her long-term social status.
In a public gathering, if you cannot visually isolate the target from people, it's likely that when you go for the kiss, her bitch-sheld will be activated. If you're one to one, it's not important not to get sexual compliance- you can try again. However, in a public gatherings, it would decrease your social value dramatically.
Therefore, it's better to play safe. Mysterious kiss-close strategy is better when it comes to circle game.
When you escelate to the level of getting a possible kiss-close, do your compliance test verbally and increase the escelation accordingly.
For more info about the mysterious kiss-close, check out here
10- Girl game: Giving IOIs to males
In that party, there was also my previous target- the franch girl. She came back from Paris and joined the party.
She was more interested in the natural italian guy; however, she also gave me IOIs during the party. My current target also talked about other guys currently texting to her when I talked about my ex.
In the end, I concluded that girls give IOIs to not only a guy but guys. Therefore, you shouldn't self-eliminate yourself. There are other players, but it's important to present yourself and act accordingly. Maybe the girl will "chose" you among the guys she is evaluating by giving IOIs.
Lemme also talk about the interaction I had with this franch girl in this party- Because she is a 9/10 girl and gives IOIs to a lot of guys without hesitation, there were too much people around her. Besides, she were passionately playing the party game. Additionally- she had her fucking end-game-boss obstacle Chinese girl friend around her.
I negged her and talked a bit in the beginning of the party she gave me IOIs, but I spent the majority of my time with my current italian target. After my current target left the party, there was a possibility of gaming on her. However, I was too tired, there were a lot of obsticals around her and most importantly- I didn't know how to play on a girl when she is actively doing something and there is a loud music.
11- The challenge: Building comfort in a party
I've experienced that 2nd time- the target is actively doing an activity such as dancing or playing a party game.
In my 68th report (A directly indirect game report from an Underground Punk Party/ Belgrade daygame diaries), I wrote about my unsuccessful attempts of building comfort with my pre-attracted target. Similarly, in this night, the french girl was pre-attracted but she was into the game and I couldn't find anything to start the comfort building.
In both case, there were people who were interacting with the targets more than I was doing- the people who do the activity with her. Therefore, I guess the best way to follow is doing the activity as together as it's possible. They do not do it till end of the party. When she will have a break, or the activity finishes, she will be available to build comfort and at this point, it's a plus that you spent time with her during the activity.
Another option- when you really dont want to do the activity- is to set secondary targets. You can open to different girls, people so that you'll be doing social connections and increasing your social proof.
In any case, do not do the uncalibrated behaviour of trying to build comfort while there is such a strong and constant obstacle.
12- The challenge of continuing the game despite the unmet expectations
It's not a healthy mindset just to focus on one girl in the party. You cannot create social proof and network in that way. More importantly, you're can't practice the game efficently.
Do not forget- you're there not to pick up "the" target. you're there to set targets and practice for the future.
13- Having a DHV story ground liberated from sequancial context
It's crucially important to be able to naturally tell your DHV ground stories which will present your personality and attract girls.
As I also mentioned in the previous report, you can just make up something that you can use to connect to your DHV stories. It could be any observation material.
By smoothly connecting the current observational materials to your upcoming DHV stories, your networking, social proofing and target gaming will be much more natural.
Ps: I'm not in a mood of writing a proper ps. 3.30am, Monday// 8.30am- international trade meeting, ffs.
cheers.
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