Hey guys, the top paragraph is for background (1), then there's what I think (2), and finally there's extra info (3).

  1. Reformed red-piller here, now in a new relationship which I am really happy with (she's wonderful!). A few months back she mentioned to me that she'd had a guy friend over before we were dating (like late last year) and he'd touched her in a way that made her uncomfortable. She works with his girlfriend (who he lives with). Recently he'd been asking her repeatedly to hang out and she'd been talking to me about it because she didn't want to catch up, especially alone. I've got second-hand experience from a mate who kept a secret about his friend (a girl, for context) cheating on her partner with someome else's partner (double cheating!). It ended up blowing up in his face because no-one liked that he knew but didn't tell anybody. My current girlfriend is concerned that if she told her co-worker about it that she'd hurt her which is why she doesn't want to do anything about it except not catch up with this guy one-on-one.

  2. I think she should tell her coworker.

  3. I am asking for feedback on this because I have been guilty of melodrama in the past. I am also not 100% convinced that my thinking is in good faith. I do get jealous and although I trust her conscious behaviour, she has said "i don't want to hurt her" while showing up to that same colleague's bday party recently in her highschool uniform to brag that she's considerably younger (21 vs the 29 year-old coworker). Outfit wasn't that revealing but I did question the choice and my brian struggles to reconcile the words with the action. I might sound like I don't trust her there but I've been trying to be more trusting since deciding to question my previous red-pill beliefs recently. I wouldn't be the one who would bear the brunt of the drama if it didn't go well which I understand. She has chosen the route of letting sleeping dogs lie and it is her choice at the end of the day.