Sorry for my English expression, I am a spaniard trying to improve my English. For some reasons (verbal abuse I am fed up with) I am thinking on divorce. The problem, we have three children under 7.

She doesn't work and doesn't want to, claiming that she does the work at home. We both think that work harder than the other. I have my work and when I got home I don't stop doing chores or being with the kids. I am happy with that but she thinks she has a lot of "mental burden" because she knows what the needs are for school, the necessities of new clothes...for example.

For my part, I'd like her to work because 1 This way she might improve her bad mood and 2. Because in case of actual divorce.

My only problem is his bad mood and bad manners. I am fed up of the lack of kindness of her voice. One could tell "why don't you tidy up that" instead of "I have told you N times that...!!!"

Other problem is that we live 500km far from the city we are from. If we divorced she would go back there with her parents and I think she would get the custody of the kids, which is what I fear the most, not seeing then as much as now. I would like in the future to get some promotions in my job and expect to work abroad, but if we divorced I think I would let that train go to stay with my kids. I feel lost.

Sometimes I think I have to resist at least until they are teens but I don't known what to do... We tried therapy but her mood bad too many times... I am calm and naturally happy person.

I need to hear some opinions...