Broke up mid august with my ex and we have boy who will turn 2 in January. It’s been a hell since then. The shared bank account is divided in 2 and emptied and I saw my son only 1 day/week. It’s a agreement we temporarily agreed upon. It was the only thing I could agree upon after 3 weeks of not seeing him in October. How that happened is a story for another time..

Begin December she started asking if I would pay the daycare bill. I refused, I told her, look I’m asking to see him more and we are going to court there is still nothing on paper. So if you can give him to me on the days of daycare I will take care of him. Also I asked if I pay if I could see him more generally, I also told her to just ask the money back in court. She refused on everything. So then I refused paying, I was hoping this would motivate her to get on the asking side of getting an agreement instead accusing me of all kinds of shitty things. Instead she didn’t let me see my son anymore.

Now I haven’t seen him for several weeks and the last time I tried. She already informed the police I was coming. So they let me know that they were not coming since she will not give him to me. I called her and she told me she wanted to meet me. So we talked and basically she said she wanted to give him to me but I have to sign a papier stating I won’t pay costs whatsoever for my son and I will bring him back the very next day. She told me to sign it because she wasn’t sure I would not return him anymore because of this argument. Believe I have always return my son on the agreed time. She could have send me the paper earlier but since this was on the spot I refused and left. If I pay the bill she still can refuse to give him, it just doesn’t matter in my opinion. I only realized she can use it against me in court.

The first courtdate is beginning of February. I am lawyered up and waiting on his response on this matter. The thing is her lawyer is not answering or cooperating since they have what they want anyway. Their goal is just to keep him as much as possible with them.

Mentally this is destroying me, I don’t know how to handle this.