I don't get that much action.. I get a fair amount of attention for what it is, and a lot of that is due to my personality, but in my experience it doesn't greatly exceed that of your average mid-20s-not-fat-guy. I am not actively exercising although I do have an active job serving tables.

There just seems to be some sort of disconnect, or barrier. I was born and raised in Maryland, and now I live in the south where there's somewhat of an expectation to .. I can't really describe, but really barrage females with attention at a good opportunity. Maybe it's because of my transition from primarily frat and college parties to adult life that makes the difference, more prudent women and more inhibitions, but in the end it's not really what concerns me.

I have this inexplicable need to be able to intellectually tolerate females before I have any legitimate interest (ie boner). I have a mind that projects into the future so, even if I may have a chance to close a deal I go on to thinking 'then what?'

At the same time, I have a couple different dating profiles. My main policy is really only that I am as honest as I can be, all of the time. I understand that this may not be an endorsed strategy, which I understand completely, but if I do it any other way I basically have a mind-shield around my member and I can't feel anything if anything were to happen.

My SMV could potentially be a problem.. but a lot of people think I'm handsome, my main things are a bit of baby face and a bit of chub. I am maybe 10-15 pounds followed by a month in the gym away from abs. Even then though, I have a really big frame (6'1" and very broad shoulders).

That's another thing, 'frame' as TRPers call it. I have lurked and googled a bit. My frame is massive. Things don't phase me, ever. Whenever I say something or make a prediction about a situation, I am by and large correct. Anxiety is no longer caused by people any more - I recognize it as an occasional eruption a little below my ribcage that will never help anything, so I just stick my head forward into whatever situation to see what needs to be done.

I mean, I don't really know what I'm going on about. I do really want a relationship with a smart and creative woman. Not spacy, I would far prefer pretentious to spacy, and I just kind of want to know what to do about that. I am very sensitive and emotional when it's necessary - I mean I would basically say that most awesome people think I'm awesome and most shitty people think I'm shitty, and the more awesome people get the more awesome they think I am. Which is great, but it's starting to feel like I'm some sort of celibate commander in chief for the social republic of my friend group. Does anybody relate to that?

On one hand I'm not really willing to give up any of the things that I perceive to be inhibiting my relationship potential (which isn't about courage.. I will multiple times resolve to make some sort of advance and then be put off by something.. unless it's maybe moving too slow, which is a possibility), but on the other I do want one.

I'm not really a part of any scenes where it's acceptable (in my mind) to 'just have sex' with someone, even on a continuing basis, and I tend to be so relaxed in those situations that a lot of opportunities just sort of seem frivolous when they're encountered.

Olivia Wilde or Rachel McAdams would probably embody my 'type' - basically a woman who can look at you with her eyes open without needing to anxious smile or jump around like a kid. I realize this is rare.