The Problem of Serial Monogamy: Systematic Discrimination Against Men

Modern family law favors women in serial monogamy (multiple consecutive partnerships), while men are subject to lifelong financial and legal burdens. This inequality manifests itself in three core areas:

  1. Financial ExploitationMen remain obligated to support their ex-partners and children even after separation – even if the woman enters into new relationships. Child support (up to 25% of income per child) and post-marital maintenance add up, while women receive additional state benefits (advance maintenance payments, single parent bonus). A man with two children from different relationships can thus lose over 30% of his income while the mothers reorient their lives.

  2. Custody as an Instrument of PowerIn over 80% of cases, mothers receive sole custody – even when they are jointly qualified. Fathers often have to conduct expensive court proceedings to obtain visitation rights. Women can make contact with new partners more difficult by moving without fearing consequences.

  3. Systematic ExpropriationIn the event of a divorce, the assets of the primary earner (usually the man) are divided via equalization of accrued gains, while pension rights (pension adjustment) are transferred – even if the ex-wife is secured through a new marriage.

The Paradox
Women benefit biologically and legally: They can change partnerships without suffering economic disadvantages. Men, on the other hand, are punished for each separation – through lifelong payments and restricted parental rights. This system is not a "patriarchy" but a gynocentric welfare state that instrumentalizes men as a source of resources – under the guise of "equality."

Serial monogamy – that is, entering into multiple successive partnerships – is not a coincidence among women, but follows biological, psychological, and sociological patterns. Here are the most important reasons:

Reasons

- Optimizing reproductive opportunities: Women instinctively seek the best genetic and social partner for their offspring. If circumstances change (e.g., a man loses his status or proves unreliable), a change can be beneficial.

- Hypergamy tendency: Women tend to marry "up" (better status, more resources). When their own social standing improves (e.g., through education or career), they often seek a "better" partner.

- Romantic ideals: Expectations of "perfect love" shaped by media and culture lead to more frequent partner changes when reality doesn't match up.

- Emotional security vs. adventure: Some women switch between stable providers and exciting but unreliable partners.

- Financial security: Through alimony and government benefits (e.g., single-parent assistance), women can separate without putting their livelihoods at risk.

- Social acceptance: While men with multiple partners are labeled as "players," women in serial monogamy are often simply viewed as "emotionally seeking."

- Economic independence: Since women can now earn their own money, they are no longer forced to stay in bad marriages.

Why is this problematic for men?

- Financial exploitation: Support obligations can burden men for life, even if the woman has new partners.

- Loss of paternity: Due to inequitable custody, many men lose contact with their children.

- Emotional instability: Frequent separations lead to trust issues and commitment issues for both sexes.

Conclusion

- Legally, men are disadvantaged (support, custody).

- Culturally, serial monogamy is permitted for women, while men bear the consequences.