Arrognace is believing you are superior to to others, and acting like it. Looking down on everyone else for not being at ur level and dismissing them as if they are beneath you and don't deserve to be treated as your equals or with respect. Deep down it's insecurity disguised with a facade of confidence that isn't genuine.

Confidence is believing in your own value and abilities without needing to compare yourself to others or diminish them. It's a quiet, grounded trust in who you are, without seeking to prove it, flaunt it, or use it to put anyone else down or needing to be better than others or win to feel good about your self.

Confidence allows room for humility, curiosity, and growth. Arrogance shuts that door, needing to always be "above" or "win" to feel safe. Arrogance demands recognition, confidence doesn't. Arrogance belittles others to feel big while confidence makes space for others to rise too without feeling threathend.

In order to appear confident, you just need to be humble and understand your limits and flaws without feeling ashamed of them or feeling the need to justify yourself when they are pointed out, allowing yourself to improve and learn from others without feeling defensive and being certain in ur worth without seeking validation or recogntion from others to feel good about yourself, treating their judgments as feedback, that doesn't neccesarily define you, but willing to improve, if fair, not to please them or get their approval, but for your own growth...

So confidence is the ability to tell yourself:

"i know who i am, i am aware of my virtues and my flaws, i don't need to hide my flaws, or be defensive about them when someone mentions them, but i also don't let them define me or shrink me into depression, shame or self-doubt. I don't need people's permission to feel at peace with myself. I don't need to overcompensate, impress anyone or justify myself.

If a hot girl likes me i don't brag about it or act like I'm superior to others. If someone doesn't like me, i don't begin to quetion my worth or my identity or have a personal crisis that leads me to depression and doubting everything about myself. I'll treat it as feedback at best, and move on to the next adventure gracefully, knowing that true connections aren't forced.

Because I accept with humility that not everyone i like has to like me back, and that not everyone i like is good for me anyway. If someone turns me down, i know it's because we simply didn't click. I am not gonna say she rejected me, or that i rejected her... I'll simply say "we didn't connect".

Arrogance is when you are controlled by your ego and tell yourself:

"I know who I am, and that makes me better than others. I highlight my strengths and downplay my flaws, or deny them altogether, because admitting them feels like weakness. If someone points them out, I get defensive or dismissive, because how dare they question me? I need to be seen as superior, so I overcompensate, try to impress, or control how others perceive me.

If someone doesn’t like me, I assume something’s wrong with them, or I spiral, because I secretly tied my worth to their approval. I can't handle rejection, because deep down, I’m not sure who I am without applause.

I chase connections or women to validate and prove my worth to others, not to build something real with her. If a hot girl likes me, everyone has to know so they praise me for being able to get this baddie. And when it doesn’t go my way, I blame her or the world rather than reflect. I might even tell people, she is crazy and that I am the one who rejected her because of that. (Even though it's not true)

Because i am already perfect, and thus everyone should want me no matter what, if someone doesn't, it's because they are fucking dumb and have a shitty taste and thus I'll tell myself that they just weren't worthy anyway or that they are not even someone i wanted... she is not that hot anyway and she should have been greateful that someone like me even pays attention to her. I won't let my friends think that someone would reject me, it always has to be me who rejects them first.