Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”

Dyometrix · 2025-07-16T18:18:55+00:00

Dying for Truth – Review (Part 1/2)

The show is based on the real story of Molly Kochan. In 2005, her breast cancer was missed, and in 2011 it came back in stage III with metastases. During hormone therapy, she got a rare side effect of very high sexual desire. In 2015 she found out the cancer was still spreading, and the story starts from that time.

What is good

The quality is great. Michelle Williams plays the role so well, I really believed her. The acting is amazing. The camera work is like a film, not a TV show, and it's pure visual pleasure.

What is wrong

They use the real story of a dying woman as a tool to add anything they want, and nobody can say a word, because she is a "dying cancer patient" and everything is holy now. They added too much stuff about politics and identity, and it started to feel fake for me. I stopped after episode 4.

Every white man in the show is terrible. Either creepy, weak, stupid, or just disgusting. All "good" characters are women, people of color, or LGBTQ. Like it's some kind of rulebook.

Her husband, who supported her for many years (!) during her illness, is shown as a total loser with control issues. In the authors' view, men are "weak" and we must see how they cry, so he of course sobs in the arms of his "strong" wife. But in real life most men hold in their emotions and cry alone. Molly looks at him with pity, leaves him, and blames him for not giving her an orgasm.

The creators specifically show his failure as a man, although in reality he is an ordinary guy who lived with his wife for fifteen years, tried to help, knew more about her disease than she did, lost attraction to her, but never left. There is a clear dissonance between cause and effect. Molly wants sex and orgasm, it doesn't really matter from whom, the most important thing for her is to get it. The tragedy is that Molly's desire is like an addiction, but the writers show her husband like he is the reason for her dissatisfaction..

Molly's friend is Nikki. She has anger issues, but only toward men, though in the show they call it ADHD. It shows that even a woman with mental problems is still better than any man, because she understands her friend, while her own husband does not.

The seller who yells at Molly and Nikki is a white man. Of course, he has to be awful-and that's exactly how they show him.

And finally, Molly's new doctor. He is a white man, around 50, insecure and quiet. Of course, they show him like some dumb and cold guy, so we understand "who is who." The cherry on top is the scene in the clinic where Molly tells him what to do, and he just obeys like a scared dog. Because we see that kind of thing all the time, right?

Molly's friend's husband is one of the two 'normal' men in the show. But no, not normal - he's perfect. Looks like the writers think there are only two kinds of men: perfect ones and moral monsters. Just like real life, right? And of course, a perfect man can't be white. So he's Asian. To make him even more perfect, they give him a daughter. But not just a daughter - she's Black. Because Asians and Black people have kids together all the time, right? And yes, he also looks a bit like a gay man.

Another good man is a social worker. And guess what, he's Black. And gay. Two checkboxes.

Title	Men need to speak up. I wrote a review for “Dying for Sex”
Author	Dyometrix
Upvotes	7
Comments	2
Date	July 16, 2025 3:55 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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