As the title says, here yours truly is going to give you seven things men don't know about sex with women. Let's get started.
1 - Sex starts the moment she lays eyes on you
I mean that, but let me explain what I mean. You ask most men when sex starts, and they'll say when penetration begins. Some of the more enlightened among us will say it starts with foreplay, but I'm here to say it begins even earlier than that.
I'm saying that everything that happens the moment you and a woman first start communicating is a part of the sexual experience and just as important to them as the grand climax of "Oh yes! F*** me harder, Daddy!"
And if you don't believe me, look at their erotica. Pay attention to erotic fiction, and you'll see that they spend vast amounts of time building up the tension between the man and the woman well before sex occurs. In 50 Shades of Grey, Christian and Ana don't have sex until the end of the book's first quarter.
Now that's a 150,000-word novel, so we're talking about the 37,500 mark. And you know why? Because the author, E.L. James, knew that her female readers would enjoy the slow increase of sexual tension just as much as the act of sex itself. She also knew that women wouldn't love the sex chapters nearly as much without the necessary buildup.
That's why she spent so much time exploring Christian's powerful personality, lavish lifestyle and the mixture of fear and arousal he invoked within Ana when she was in his presence,
So remember this when you're dating women. Eroticism is a slow build from icy cold to nuclear inferno that starts the moment you meet. It doesn't start in the bedroom.
2 - Their entire bodies are erogenous zones
As men, we have one erogenous zone that I don't even need to name. However, women are nothing like that. You won't be far off the mark if you meet one and assume her entire body is an erogenous zone because it basically is. A mistake men make is focusing on a woman's vagina, breasts, and ass, but what about her neck?
Why not kiss the small of her back while you massage the inside of her thigh? Why not lick the back of her knees, suck on her fingers, nibble her ears and bite her lower lip? Why not choke her tightly with your left hand while sensually massaging her breast with your right? Unlike yours, her entire body is an erotic playground, which if fully explored sets the stage for an explosive sexual union.
3 - She'll be turned on by turning you on (if she likes you)
This is unusual for men to comprehend, but if a woman's genuinely attracted to you, she'll actively be turned on by knowing she's turning you on. This means that the more you enjoy being with her, the more she'll enjoy being with you.
However, if you're like me or most men, you've spent much time holding back in the bedroom because you don't want to look weird or uncool. This has meant you've suppressed your enjoyment to give off a sophisticated or masculine air, but that's also meant you've dampened the vibe. If you're hiding your pleasure, the woman you're in bed with will feel that and be less aroused.
When it comes to the bedroom, you don't win any points by holding back. You need to let the animal out. Not only will that be intensely erotic, but it'll also give her permission to unleash her own beast.
4 - She needs to be comfortable to enjoy it
Loosely put, the more comfortable a woman is, the more she's going to enjoy sex, but the inverse is also true. The less comfortable she is, the less she'll enjoy the act. If she feels insecure about her body, how she smells, whether or not you're into her, her work deadline, or anything else, she won't be able to let herself go.
If you want her to reach throes and throes of epic orgasmic bliss with you, you'll need to make her feel as comfortable as possible. Some ideas of how you can do this include but aren't limited to:
Letting her get to know and trust you as a person
Making the environment comfortable prior to sex with music, scented candles and whatnot
Giving her a long and luxurious massage
Giving her lots and lots of foreplay (20 minutes plus)
Losing yourself in her body and letting her see and feel how much you love being with her, telling her how beautiful she looks, feels, smells, and tastes
And more.
5 - They're multi-orgasmic
Something I'm personally jealous of where women are concerned is that, unlike men, who are good for one decent orgasm per day, they can keep going like the energiser bunny. If I have sex tonight and cum twice, the second orgasm will be nowhere as good as the first. Also, by the time I get to the third and fourth orgasms, I'll just be wasting my time because they'll be painful more than anything else.
For women? It's the opposite. Not only can they orgasm repeatedly in one sitting, but their orgasms increase in intensity and frequency.
It's honestly like pumping a well for water. It takes a long time for the first drops to come out, but those drops soon become a trickle that morphs into a torrential sexual downpour. As for why that is, well, this is my theory, but remember the last point about women needing to feel comfortable? Well, once a woman's orgasmed, she'll be very freaking comfortable indeed, meaning that a second one will be even easier to achieve.
Also, unlike men whose arousal states are directly tied to how much semen we have in our balls, theirs are different. Something about the fact that they don't have to expel fluids with their orgasms allows them to just keep on going like we never could.
6 - They enjoy sex more than you
I mean this too, but I want you to look past the societal stereotype of men perpetually wanting sex and women being the gatekeepers to a more profound point. For instance, have you ever seen a female orgasm? If you have, ask yourself if you've ever experienced even 50% of what that looked like. I know I haven't.
Their orgasms are full-body sensual experiences with waves upon waves of cascading pleasure that take them to unknown heights of ecstasy.
Their orgasms can last anywhere from 30 seconds to a couple of minutes.
Their orgasms leave them unable to think or function for five to ten minutes after the fact.
Now, what about our orgasms?
They're shit, aren't they? Five seconds of buildup for an explosion with the destructive force of popping a water balloon with a pin. They're not full-body intergalactic transdimensional experiences, are they?
Not even close.
Fundamentally, my essential point is this. If a man and a woman are having sex and enjoying the act to the fullest of their physical capabilities, the woman will have a way better time.
The disparity in sexual enjoyment won't even be close.
7 - They can have lots of different orgasms
It's true. Among the orgasms women can achieve are clitoral, vagina, g-spot, cervical, and full-body orgasms. Also, they vary massively in how they feel. Apparently, clitoral orgasms are like a buildup and release of intense pleasure, while vaginal orgasms are deep and intense, as is the g-spot orgasm. Although, apparently, women usually feel like they need to pee before a g-spot orgasm. And finally, cervical and full-body orgasms are described as full-body head-to-toe experiences.
So, yeah. Here were seven things you, as a man, didn't know about having sex with women. I don't know about you, but I feel amazed when I read all of that. Women's bodies are fucking incredible and I wonder what it would feel like to live in one. Ciao for now, and thanks for reading.
Excelsior!
Kieren
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