From this father’s perspective and perhaps many others who resist coercive control (hence why many dads refuse to pay- these Dads resist unauthorized meddling  authority) , if the child does not reside under his house, his rules and influence, this is NOT his child.  So from his perspective you destroyed the child and father by turning the State and Federal government against him. He owes you nothing and no amount of causing additional grief and BS is going to convince him otherwise.  

Use some sense. In this case many men take their own life as prolonged suffering makes no sense and it’s the only way to deliver consequences to the mother, her seeing the children without a father, which would have been the same consequence anyway.  Either way the father is the scapegoat, very few less than 15% will ever seen by wider society as “good dads”.  It’s a loose loose situation so why play?

There is nothing more destructive and  idiotic than what you have done.  Many men suicide over this.

You’ve entered severe trauma into your family via alienation of father and child, impoverished your family possibly for generations to come via this action.

I’m sorry, many of these parrots on Reddit aren’t going to tell you that you have been manipulated. Now you know The very best thing you can do is begin back channel communication to do 50/50 and end child support, let him catch up and the two of you regroup OUT of the ADVERSARIAL System, privately. The “child support”, divorce, CPS racket has done more to create dependency, it destroys fathers and families very successfully which was the entire intent. Ladies if you want a prosperous future for yourself and your children work things out in a REASONABLE manner, otherwise do not complain AFTER you have entered into such a devil’s bargain.

If the shoe were on the other foot, how would you see things? Be reasonable, think critically and do not fall into your biology so easily, your judges, courts and police DO NOT work for you, they work for the very ones involved in human trafficking via the foster care system.  Nancy Schaeffer exposed this, she died for exposing it. Video below:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4nkgezojsgo&pp=ygUTTmFuY3kgc2NoYWVmZmVyIGNwcw%3D%3D

You have been socially engineered to act against your long term interest, this is often what you see the men pointing out, they cannot protect you and keep you safe from yourselves as you also feel you cannot trust their leadership and lack of strength BUT THINK!!  

Who runs the Lawfirm’s , congress, senate and police? Isn’t it mostly men?  So what is the motive?  Think critically , I say this with reverence for our mothers, from whom we all entered into this place (without a choice in the matter).

So instead of looking at what’s wrong with your children’s father, together with family and friends encourage the hero in him. Go against the grain. Unity is always stronger than alienation.

People can be reasoned with, when they are calm, cool and collected. All you can do is try.

My spouse (soon to be ex I understand) has a great story about her Uncle when he came back from war. He was a mess. At one point he went out and got himself a mistress. Well the family found out and guess what they did? They visited on one of those weekdays when he had the mistress at the beach bungalow, the men dragged him out beat the $hit out of him (and he’s 6ft 6 just back from Afghanistan war) the some. Dragged the mistress out and sent her packing.

It’s 2025 the husband and wife are both alive and well, still married. They lived in a communist nation, now it’s just consumerist under the Soviet , but they were rooted in traditional values of “what works”, my wife’s uncle may still harbor some bitterness.

Point is practically 1) less grief and BS 2) no handing your family wealth to unproductive lawyers 3) learning to resolve conflict (yes, that’s a sense of humor) 4) for the love of Jove stop taking crap so seriously, did anyone die?? Stop creating needless situations in order to bully a husband or wife, 5) think of the kids

They saved the marriage because they loved them, and their kids. If only we had that kind of tough love today.