I (mid 20s F) met a couple of guys while out one night. One of them asked for my info and later invited me to hang out again. I assumed it was one-on-one, but when I arrived his friend was there too. It threw me off at first, but the vibe ended up being fun.

At some point, things escalated more flirtatiously than I expected. I was making out with both of them. It felt mutual and consensual, and everyone seemed into it in the moment. Eventually, we ended up back at my place with the idea that things might continue.

Right before we were all about to have sex, the person I was most interested in suddenly backed out. No pressure from me, but it was a noticeable shift after being very engaged up until that point.

I’m not upset. just confused. Why do some people seem fully on board during the buildup but get cold feet right at the last second?