A lot of women, and certainly men, understand how porn distorts men's view of women and sexuality. They understand that doing a certain activity rewires a persons brain and emotions, and changes what they respond to until they stop and seek help.
Women however don't seem to be interested in addressing the effects of hypergamy, let alone having any desire to seek a cure for it.
They will continue justifying it as "having attraction" rather than a pathology they created due to their actions.
There's nothing essentially wrong with female hypergamy, any more than the male desire for quantity and variety of sexual partners. These are built in, evolutionary programs. They issues occur when they get out of hand.
A woman who has distorted her hypergamous programming is just as damaged as a porn addicted man is, the difference being is a man is constantly shamed and told he is wrong and broken, while a woman is generally told that she shouldn't settle for anything less.
Just like porn addictions leads men to all kinds of actions that breakdown healthy relationships or avoids them altogether, so does an out of wack hypergamy leads women to self sabotage relationships they are in or avoid healthy partnering.
I've been on both sides of the fence, and see it first hand now. I am dating a single mother currently (who's husband passed away). She is desperate to find a partner to support her and be a role model for her kids, and while dating her I give her all the freedom to do so, but she's simply stuck on me. I'm not trying to toot my own horn here, and I'll readily admit that in the majority of the situations I am not the guy who the woman has the hypergamous fixation on, but in this case I am, and I see and hear about the many guys that would make good partners for her, that are willing and able to commit to her and her kids being tossed aside for her "emotions"
Now sure I'm not abusive, I still treat her and the kids well when I'm with them, but I made it absolutely clear that I will not commit to her, and we only see each other every couple of weeks. In the mean time her and her kids are struggling because she doesn't have the "emotions" for these other men.
You can call me the asshole in this situation, but at the end of the day, I'm just enjoying my time. It's really up to her to stop it and break the "addiction", but I'm sure she makes the same comments as many women on here do to justify being single or having their relationships break apart.
It's up to you at the end of the day. You can date whoever, and how many ever people you want, but just be aware that emotions do get distorted, and lead you down crooked paths.
I'm sure this woman I'm seeing is having a great emotional time with me, otherwise she wouldn't want to see me again, but she could have been having a great emotional time with a man committed to her and her children full time.
Just like men who are porn broken with ED or other pathologies, women are also affected and have their emotions distorted, and these kinds of statements stop being as empowering as you think.
