First, thanks to this community, it wouldn't have been possible without you!

I started my journey when I was 23, an absolute novice, lacking confidence, chubby brown guy. It was hard for me to approach and approach to conversion is a game I knew nothing about.

FF today, I'm 37 turning 38 this November. Early this year Feb (the weak of Valentine's) was my last game in gothenburg (took two hottest Swedish chicks back to my hotel).

I don't remember the count to be honest, I had an email chain (Google chat then) between my two old accounts and it's documented around 700 until 2016, once you start becoming better you start compartmentalizing your time between your dates and scheduling becomes an hectic task. Body count imho matters more when you're starting as you progress the quality of the score becomes a bigger factor.

The places I frequent, I have guys coming up to ask me how did you score like that the other day, I have had several women ask me 'who are you?', a lot of places I travel I see women recognizing me all the time, my favorite clubs I've slept with most of the hot bartenders. I on the other hand find it hard to remember the lot of them, so many times I casually start a conversation and the girl says 'yeah I remember you told me' or 'I remember you'.

Anyway, I thought a lot and isolated myself since Feb to deeply think about everything and here's the honest truth:

  1. The key to getting it

You get whatever you want in life if you REALLY WANT it, I was obsessed about getting it, and it took time but I did. I became so good at it that if I walk in a bar I know in 5-7 mins who to approach, who's a regular, who's vulnerable, who's just there for the drinks, who's the traveler, who's looking for Charlie, who's the runaway, who's celebrating the fake Bachelorette!

But i got just that, I blew all my earnings & time to get just that.

  1. Trust

As you progress through the game towards experience you loose trust, it's a very sad but ugly truth.

A lot of times I found out about the women who were married and often questioned myself why are the men still with them. I guess I understand that now, even though I'm single and don't have kids. I see men with family and priorizing the happiness of their kids over their's. I first hand haven't experienced it but I feel sympathy. I met some genuine innocent pretty girls along the way, it's easier for a young heart to associate and see their prince charming in you no matter how ugly you are, and this is one of the cruelest thing you do, break a heart. it didn't effect me then, life kinda moved in trance from one rave to another techno to after parties and everything in between. It does now, when on a cross road of life you cross paths and they ask was it all just fun for you?

I once out of joke gave an email as a contact to a girl when leaving in the morning and I get email after 10 years asking the same question.

  1. Wingman

Some of the most honest friendships I have had were with some guys i met while gaming, in the beginning it was mostly because I had the mental conception that game is better with wingman. The truth is, it depends on your level. It's hard to find matching energy. A lot of times guys stick to you like leeches if you're good, you'll open and that's what they want.. to overcome their initial fear, a lot of guys will stick around for the free beers, for the leftovers, some even for you to slip up. The worst was a local guy in a Baltic country pretending to be my best bud and talking in local language with the girls when I opened leaving me blindsided.

But as I said some of the best friends I've made were also during the gaming. As you grow in experience you start radiating the vibe where you just let the flow, flow and others follow your lead.

  1. Dressing up

This really has weight here, personally from starting with the mindset of what can I offer you to what's in it for me, dressing up 'comfortably' is the most important task.

A lot of people go all black (I did too, some years), but over years the key you learn is to be 'comfortable in your skin'.

Sounds easy but it's kinda the hardest part because it needs to come from the inside, you can dress like old money but if you don't feel like it after 5 mins of opening your mouth your game will go south.

  1. Lead to closure

Hardest topic in the book and often the one most asked. She was so interested, she herself took my insta why hasn't she messaged?

We talked for hours, walked we might go for a date, what should I do?

A Danish girl once told me that a gentleman fucks on the first date and the words somehow stayed with me. While not all situations and girls are the same, below are my few rules :

5a. Gentle touch > give her a challenge > reward with a kiss as if she deserved it.

5b. Never bring home without kissing prior. (Key rule)

5c. Have everything needed ready.

5d. Know when to quit

  1. Important Others

Being exotic always helps, being at the right place is often the most important factor

Stay near the game not more than half a mile away

Money is not everything, in fact it attracts the crowd you'd wanna avoid, but enough is needed for few round of shots, cabs, dinners and tips.

A major part of my experience went in 'offering' I wanted to have everything someone would need... started from offering drinks, cigs, and then drugs, infact a lot of times it was easier with Charlie and bathrooms in clubs became my hang out point, it's personally one of my most ashamed memories not because I was using or because it was working well but because without it I was nothing, there were times I went without it and felt under confident. It took me a lot of time and effort to overcome the temptation to offer and to build what's in it for me approach. I started priorizing high quality interactions where it was emotionally stimulating to me and most of the connections I keep today are some of them.

Closing note: I never thought I'll ever be bored by it, but at some point I am, there's nothing in the hunt that's exciting anymore and I find it better to priorize a disciplined healthy lifestyle over night outs or day games.

I always wanted to maybe write a book, or have a helping guide app or newsletters with the name datelikeaboss.com even booked a domain, I'm happy to sell or give it away if you're a techie or wish to build something meaningfull on it.