Girl Wants me to be a Dom

[deleted] · 2015-12-19T17:42:26+00:00

What ever you do, don't look to porn as advice! She is probably looking for you to take control, maybe throw her around and choke he a little, not put her in a laytex horse mask and tie her to the ceiling with a hook in her ass. First step would be communication.

UnicornWIP · 2015-12-19T19:03:27+00:00

Be Selfish: The correct mentality of Dom - Sub is that you come first. It's very red pill because you are using reward and punishment in the moment to make a sub that is perfect for YOU. Her wants and needs should become the same as yours and always second to your physical needs. If you touch her (in a good way), it's because you like to watch her beg and squirm, or orgasm over and over. Not because you are trying to make it good enough that she comes back for more. The reason is because the latter will cause you to worry too much about what she wants instead of what you want. That feels really creepy and takes you out of the moment. This is why you really don't need to communicate a ton ahead of time (ask a lot about what she wants or expects), just take it really easy the first time and don't cross any hard boundaries (like anal, extreme pain, etc). Don't go over 20 minutes in a session and make the first sessions quick, leaving her wanting more. Number one mistake is that guys try too hard and go too long, both of you will get bored. Don't let her orgasm every session. Make a rule that she always asks before cumming, ask her and deny it on purpose. That will make her more and more horny each session until you finally let her cum.
Be Comfortable: Don't do anything that makes YOU uncomfortable. Don't do something just because you think it's what she wants. Do what you want first and if it also happens to be what she wants (or if what she wants gives you an idea of something new to try) go for it. But if you are doing what you think she wants, she is in control (that is a very wrong dynamic/mentality). When "rewarding" her don't try too hard (touching her, being affectionate, etc) and while "punishing" don't hurt her passed what you are comfortable with (she can likely take more pain then you are willing to give her at first - that is expected and fine!) Be relaxed and take your time.
Be Confident: Fully commit and do not break frame in whatever you are doing. If you tell her to do something and she fails, follow through with punishment or withdholding reward. Never tell her to do or not do something if you don't mean it. Don't be afraid to speak and tell her what to do. Dom - Sub is very mental, so it's less about what you do and more about how you do it. This is expiremental and if she doesn't like it, don't worry about it. You will probably never see her again. If you act afraid, it will be bad for certain. If you act confident, it may or may not be bad. But only the latter actually gives you a chance!

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-12-20T00:06:04+00:00

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[deleted] · 2015-12-22T21:41:14+00:00

It's all about doing whatever you feel like in bed, mentality is, she's there to please you period.

Doesn't hurt to grab firmly, spank, pull her hair. When in doubt go doggy, spank her, grab her hair, push her head against the mattress, grab her by the arms/elbows, fuck her against a wall, be vocal, command a lot, etc.

Homosapiensized · 2015-12-19T23:27:22+00:00

Don't take BDSM advice from the Redpill.

Title	Girl Wants me to be a Dom
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	7
Comments	5
Date	December 19, 2015 5:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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