How long did your divorce take?

Disastrous-Radish-70 · 2026-07-12T12:34:59+00:00

3 ish months and 260$ in fees. Alaska is kinda unique.

Cool-Lavishness-1955 · 2026-07-10T22:52:27+00:00

11 months and I feel lucky!

Rustic_Father · 2026-07-10T11:25:42+00:00

Mine took 2.2 years in Virginia. Virginia had a 1 year separation minimum before you can file

LoveCrispApples · 2026-07-09T15:16:11+00:00

Separated 131 days. One court date, no lawyers. $368 filing fee and 10 minutes before the judge. They "squeezed us in before lunch."

AproposWuin · 2026-07-09T15:10:54+00:00

Past 6 years. Next year ring time and seperation will be the same...

Edit. 3 kids. Now all in school. No money worth mentioning to fight over. I left her the rental as i was only one with family to goto. That might have been a mistake somehow.

Also wow I think the only one close to me here is 4 years. Lots of 1 year.

SomeoneInQld · 2026-07-09T07:07:53+00:00

just over 2.5 years and still going

Agreeable_Cheek5618 · 2026-07-09T05:02:51+00:00

1 year and 7 months. 140k in legal fees.

soco420 · 2026-07-09T03:45:05+00:00

3.5 years, including criminal and family court. The lawyers absolutely gauge a case based on funds available. My case suddenly settled after 3.5 years when the liquid assets began to severely dwindle. It also took a long while to fully dispel all the false allegations she spewed against me from the start. I had GAL, DCFS investigation (unfounded), false DV, forensic accountant, three lawyers for her—on an 8 year marriage and three young kids.

jimsmythee · 2026-07-09T03:40:21+00:00

I got divorced in AZ. Divorced here go fast.

11-30 she got served.
12-14 temporary orders meeting with judge.
12-28. Mediation (paid by the state, went nowhere)
1-13 trial date set. Her lawyer couldn’t make it.
3-25 new trial date set. 3 hour trial.
5-28 divorce decree in hand.

I got everything I wanted at trial. The family court judge? Well, she just hated my exwife. Admonished her for refusing to work.

Ok_Business5507 · 2026-07-09T01:10:54+00:00

<6 months total.

kittenbeans66 · 2026-07-09T00:36:42+00:00

Just over 2 years.

Minute_Lavishness_32 · 2026-07-08T23:44:57+00:00

Took me 3 months and 289$

Vex_Appeal · 2026-07-08T23:40:39+00:00

Wife asked for a divorce a few weeks ago and is already talking about serving me/me signing a waiver so I don’t have to deal with a cop.

Seems fast for a 10+ years relationship that she blindsided me out of after saying she loved me every day. I want to drag my feet, the slower the better because we are upside down on the house and both cars. No end in sight because nothing is signed.

DudeforRighteousness · 2026-07-08T23:22:31+00:00

Too fucking long. It's been close to three years since she left and I'm still waiting on the very final order

MaxViewingAngle · 2026-07-08T22:09:42+00:00

1 year. Adult kids. I had vehicles so nice, I bought them twice. 🙄

Slippedbonds · 2026-07-08T21:35:02+00:00

“Separated” Nov ‘21. Said she was going to file in ‘23. She never did, so I filed in Feb ‘25. T.O. Jul ‘25. Tried mediation a month ago, to not much luck. Court in Oct. 2 minor kids, 24 years married. Very slow…

IrresponsibleInsect · 2026-07-08T21:33:50+00:00

I'm at 3 months from filing and our first actual court date is tomorrow for custody and child support. Filed an Ex Parte for emergency custody and the judge awarded ex temporary custody because the kids were in school there, despite a mountain of evidence showing it was hazardous for the children to live there. Then they booted custody jurisdiction to ex's county and kept the divorce in my county, where I filed. So we started over with an RFO in a podunk county that does family law 1 day a week with a packed calendar. Awesome. Despite ex getting primary custody and every other weekend for me (4 days a month), I've had them for the last 34 days with ex's consent. They don't want to be a parent, but want to cry in court about how they miss their kids in an appeal for a child support check. This is going to be a very long and expensive divorce and I am going to push for trial ASAP. My attorney says trial can start as soon as March which would put us at about 1 year.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2026-07-08T20:56:44+00:00

One and a half hour, and month of waiting for an appointment. Total cost was about 20$.

Ok_Trip_2062 · 2026-07-08T20:32:25+00:00

I filed in March and it was finalized in November

SubjectNo8470 · 2026-07-08T20:18:48+00:00

2 years and counting. Judge ordered a forensic accountant because ex thinks I’m hiding money after opposing counsel had my financials for 1.5years. Why wouldn’t they have started with a forensic accountant?? Because they want to drag this out and take every dollar I have. Highly contested divorce. My advice is to stay on top of your attorney and get mediation or a trial date as soon as you can.

koskesh122 · 2026-07-08T20:07:57+00:00

3 years including criminal and family courts

Dangerous-Yam2894 · 2026-07-08T20:05:26+00:00

In over 4 years. Trial date set in October. Her day of reckoning is near!

mistake-number2 · 2026-07-08T19:46:35+00:00

2 to 3 months max. No kids and we split everything right out.

slimypeters · 2026-07-08T19:42:34+00:00

Exposed her cheating ways end of 2018, covid years, divorce finalize February 2021.

Nearby_Translator_55 · 2026-07-08T19:41:16+00:00

Three years separated, living in the same home, back and forth through lawyers...no end in sight.

H20WATCHER · 2026-07-08T19:39:24+00:00

6 months. No children. Easy.

Friendly_Tomato_8607 · 2026-07-08T19:23:52+00:00

Two months court date. Then the waiting two more to get decree after judge signs off if it’s non contested.

boring_page_5190 · 2026-07-08T19:06:26+00:00

2 years and still in progress because kids. I underestimated how much effort it would take to be a part of my kids lives

qrc2121 · 2026-07-08T18:53:19+00:00

Been 18 months now with final hearing not scheduled until mid december 2026

Pmoneywhazzup · 2026-07-08T18:50:16+00:00

Almost exactly one year.

Pmoneywhazzup · 2026-07-08T18:50:09+00:00

Almost exactly one year.

ABBucsfan · 2026-07-08T18:07:23+00:00

Depends..we kinda started just before COVID. Fired the lump sum mediator (big mistake hiring someone that wasn't a lawyer with the high conflict and someone motivated to wrap it up quick). Started talking to lawyers and then had to shelve for COVID. Think she also fired her first lawyer before we met.

After covid she went through another lawyer then we met for mediation after a few months for financial stuff after gathering it all. That was fairly easy. It was custody and section 7 (extra curricular) expenses that took over 2 years. She also pulled some stunts which made us jump through hoops with a psychologist to make sure kids were indeed safe with me lol. So yeah it took over 3 years.. although the actual divorce decree was maybe a year into it (it was super important to her to be considered free of the marriage even before we finalized everything.. think it was some trying to make some appearance she was doing right before dating the next guy)

_NeXXeR_ · 2026-07-08T17:52:24+00:00

3.5 years and counting. And that's without any savings... Or property to fight over. Simple a narcissist that managed to get a public lawyer that the gov provides for people who have low income, but she lives in a rented apartment that is new and extremely pricey yet claims she can't work. Any who... Hitler incarnated.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-07-08T17:24:35+00:00

2 weeks. DIY in Oregon, no court appearance necessary.

Surreal that 22 years marriage was wiped out so quickly.

Morphy2222 · 2026-07-08T17:23:54+00:00

3 months but we were amicable (agreed on pretty much everything) and this is Florida. Oh yea no kids were involved.

Title	How long did your divorce take?
Author	Coffeecankicker
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Comments	48
Date	July 8, 2026 5:15 PM UTC (2 weeks ago)
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