Help loosening up

abdada · 2016-03-02T14:31:58+00:00

Too military is sexy to some women. But for work it can be a deal breaker.

Try decoupling your off hours from digital junk. No internet or smartphone or TV or video games or microwave from 8-10pm every night.

Read a book. Roast a duck. Go for a walk. Have tea with your mom.

Useful active and meditative can break down your roboticism.

LukeMooney · 2016-03-02T14:53:45+00:00

I have no experience whatsoever.

The only thing I can think of is to address the issue to your audience, i.e. I at the beginning when you introduce yourself "my name is, I'm here to talk to you today about X, I also used to be in the military as you can probably tell from my posture and the way I talk. If I seem like I'm lecturing you, don't take it personally, it just comes from years of training" <- I can't think of anything off the top of my head, but if you could make it light and put a joke in at the end it could be a good way to actually open the audience up and become the same stupid first paragrapgh you say before all presentations, something you really own, and are comfortable with. Just be careful not to be apologetic for the way you are, you're instead just warming them up, letting them know, and a tiny self depreciating joke at the end so they know you're not as scary as you seem.

Hope this helps

You might not even need a joke, you could just motion at your own body language and voice. I.e "...probably tell from my posture (stick chest out and smile) and the way I talk (motion hand away from mouth to signify you talk loudly, then smile) - something like that might work,.

Tauger3 · 2016-03-02T15:43:31+00:00

I look great and have my dream job traveling around as a paid presenter.

How is this relevant?

Title	Help loosening up
Author	DE_BP
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Date	March 2, 2016 2:08 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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