Do you ask what her partner count is?

Dr_Shakalu22 · 2016-03-21T03:05:43+00:00

I did with my current GF, but I'm sure it's a lie.

jayremedy · 2016-03-21T04:05:21+00:00

Why bother? It's going to be a lie anyway.

raisins3142 · 2016-03-21T05:51:27+00:00

This has been written about here and at TRP a lot.

I'm not the best at searching and finding the links for you, but they exist.

Unless the girl has a relatively low number, you will usually not get anything close to the truth.

Also, by asking, you tip your hand that you care and then you definitely will give her an incentive to cover things up.

The only men that women typically admit to sleeping with are those that you already know about or will likely find out about. The ones they usually admit to are their past boyfriends that they were with for a long enough period to "go on the resume", which is probably around 6 months.

They might throw in a few others to make it seem more believable.

They typically will not admit to anything that will make you view them as easy or damaged. For instance, if they once had sex with two guys at once, you'll never hear it from her.

Back to "finding out", you can't but you can get a rough idea if you play your cards right.

First, act non-judgmental around her sexual past. Do not even ask many questions that will give her the sense that you care in the least.

Second, you need to keep track of what she tells you about herself and her past. Note that even things that don't seem directly related can be and help form your overall picture. Ask open ended, nonjudgmental questions to get her talking.

Third, pay attention to what she does and how she acts in relation to male attention.

Fourth, learn about her family. Absent dad?

Fifth, pay attention to how she is in bed. How long before she slept with you? Does her skill level and what she does indicate that she has a lot of experience? Does sex actually seem significant to her (like it is something she hasn't done with a bunch of guys she doesn't care about)? Does she have sexual hang ups? Oddly, my experience is that women that have trouble orgasming and don't seem genuinely into the sex are the ones with the most partners.

You have to behave in a way that gets maximum information and then piece it all together. Piecing it together takes experience.

If you are younger and/or haven't known a lot of women of varying promiscuity levels, then all this is more difficult.

Also, keep in mind that false negatives are probably more common than false positives.

What I mean is this: there are women that I can observe and talk to for a short period and I'm almost certain they have a high n-count. It is rare for me to think she has a high n-count and that not be the case. However, I'm sure there are many loose women that could fool me (those would be the false negatives).

xdesol8x · 2016-03-21T03:15:02+00:00

Make her belive you're super ok with promiscuity before you even bring it up, or you are going to lied to (even though this will probably be the case anyway).

Title	Do you ask what her partner count is?
Author	fallenistand
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	March 21, 2016 2:43 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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