I got myself into a long distance relationship (I know, real fucking stupid in TRP standards) but I know what I'm doing these days. Unluckily for myself right around the time we became official the government shut the border between our states due to a handy virus so for now my game is truly at an unprecedented time. I won't bitch around about the timing of everything. Here's something that completely shocked me yet also didn't surprise me.

A little bit of extra background info: Discovered TRP 4 years ago, have always been a great conversationalist (except ridiculously awkward with women before TRP but luckily TRP helped change that), no issues with Tinder and can keep conversations going eternally.

Due to the insane lockdown restrictions I'm in right now I straight up cannot go out except to buy groceries or I will be fined. So in turn, I do have quite a bit of extra time these days even after my full time job working from home, workouts, hobbies etc. This has meant that I've upped the amount of messages I send my girlfriend naturally as I have more time. So here's where the wake up call is:

As I am quite a good conversationalist and can keep conversations interesting, I didn't think much of the extra time I'd spend messaging her. We're still in our so called "honeymooon" period of the relationship and she has been pretty female RP to me (very submissive nature). We were talking about what things we find unattractive about each other in a very joking way when all of a sudden she genuinely had something to say. After a little bit of hesitation and pushing, she said: "You know, sometimes you can ignore my messages". No surprise, yet a smack to my face.

I hadn't been thinking much about the extra replies but it's dawned on me that it's actually on her. While I can keep the conversation going, she can't always do it. Not because she's a woman or a man. But as a person - she just can't keep the conversation going as much as I can. She's great (I got into a relationship with her for a reason) but she's not perfect. She's having to think of replies sometimes when I can just ignore her previous message. She doesn't ignore me which is why she said this. It's a win/win - she doesn't have to use her brain to reply to those messages and the lack of attention makes her want me more. She knows this, and now of course I know this. I'm most definitely going to adjust.

3 or 4 years ago I might have posted this to askTRP about maybe where I've gone wrong conversationally, but now I'm confident I can post it here in the main sub to help everyone. We're truly in unprecedented times everywhere. I hope this has helped you.