How to show affection with words?

Dark_T100 · 2019-01-14T23:28:25+00:00

excerpt from SGM that deals with this. the book pretty much says to show affection when you're balls deep. but to also mix it up and throw in dialogue that increases your dominance, immersion, and always having variety

dominance : "You like the way daddy fucks your little whore pussy?" manhandle. spank. cause pain in the right way. immersion : Be present and in the moment. planning ahead will make you nervous. be spontaneous. Concentrate on relaxation. Some people have issues getting it up during sex, but have no problem getting diamonds watching porn. The issue is the lack of relaxation. eliminate limiting beliefs like " i am too ugly" or "my cock is too small" or "she probably does not want me to be dominant" or "sex is wrong" or " women do not want sex"

EMOTION

I have been in many different sexual relationships. Some of these relationships were simple one night stands, some were friends with benefits arrangements, some were exclusive relationships, and some were open relationships. One thing that I have learned is that the sex is always better in relationships with an emotional investment. This is because sex and Emotion are deeply intertwined. I have found that the more intense the emotions before and during sex, the more intensely pleasurable and satisfying the sex will be. This is true for men, but it is doubly true for women because they are capable of even greater emotional highs and lows than we are. My major breakthrough in this Element came with my current primary girlfriend. We'd been steadily getting more emotionally involved with each other over time, and in a moment of peak sexual arousal she let an "I love you" slip. At the time, I didn't respond, because I had been taught by others not to tell a girl that I loved her.

The problem was that I knew I loved this girl, and it intuitively felt wrong to hold it in. I decided to throw caution to the wind, and tell her that I loved her also. Of course, I did this during sex.

Holding her tightly against me and looking into her eyes, I asked her how much she liked me when she was almost about to cum. "l like you a lot," she managed to get out, as I fucked her slowly. "No," I said, "that's not what I'm looking for. How much do you like me?" I had to ask her this seven or eight times. I knew she wanted to tell me that she loved me, she was just afraid that I would freak out. Finally, with a combination of verbal coaxing and deep thrusting, I got it out of her; "I love you," she finally whispered. "I love you too baby," I said as I looked deep into her eyes, and started fucking her harder. She became so emotional she started crying, and she came like I never saw her cum before. This showed me clearly how strong emotions can intensify sex. While sex with my "friends-with-benefits" had not been bad, it had been shallow and unfulfilling. By adding strong emotions to my sex life, I was on a whole new playing field. This experience showed me the power of positive emotions during sex, but I have also had experiences which showed me that negative emotions also heighten sexual pleasure. Using these emotions for sexual purposes can backfire and is not for beginners, but in the right hands, negative emotions are just as powerful as positive ones. In all your sexual relationships, you should work to heighten your partner's emotional investment in you. This will intensify and deepen all your sexual experiences together.

Title	How to show affection with words?
Author	lhv12
Upvotes	2
Comments	1
Date	January 14, 2019 11:07 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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