Explosive Break Up

Simptopimp-co-uk · 2020-08-30T15:40:16+00:00

Change your locks asap. Send her anything you still have of hers and apologise for being a drunk asshole (not exactly for her but saying your apologies will slightly clear your head) then block her on everything and move on with your life.

PrettyBarbiePerson · 2020-08-30T15:43:57+00:00

I’ve had stuff disappear out of nowhere

I doubt she’s trying to kill you or she’s actually robbing you.

Security cameras aren’t that expensive and way worth the peace of mind just in case you do get robbed.

Also change the locks

ay-fuh-q · 2020-08-30T15:46:13+00:00

Starting simping out too much. Turned into too much of beta with my GF. She started to get really disrespectful, colder, less frequent sex, etc. That went on for about a month.

I'm betting you simped in response to her already doing this shit, which exacerbated everything.

Here's how it ended - she pulled out her phone and showed me that some dude she had previously slept with had DMed her.

So, they still fuck and it is most likely the direct reason she stopped fucking you.

She was halfway through writing a response. I ignored it at that moment (couldn't tell if this was a shit test or a please break up with me request considering everything else thats happened between us lately.)

Regardless, this is the moment you should have ended it.

Anyways, the following day, I got really drunk and became vitriolic. Wasn't expecting it since I haven't been that drunk or angry in a decade - didn't intend to get that drunk. I got really mean with her. I basically told her whoever marries you is a complete dipshit. You ain't worth marrying. She had been hinting at it lately. Told her to come get her shit out of my house the following day since she had moved in over quarantine. Said some other really nasty things to her and went home alone. She showed up the following day to get her stuff out of the house. She was purposely trying to leave shit behind which I made sure didn't happen. Hard nexted her, unfollowed her, haven't spoken to her since.

Well, hiding behind alcohol to say mean things is probably the end. Too much emotion AND you did it drunk.

But she did leave one sole earring at my place, which I noticed after she left. It was on my nightstand. No big deal I thought. Just left it there. But then some weird shit started happening. I live up in the middle of nowhere in the mtns where no one is ever around 7-8 miles out of town. My driveaway alone is a mile long dirt road etched into a steep hillside.

The excuse to come back...

Her earring is now missing. Don't know where it went. And one of my mason jars went missing too. So now I am worried that she or someone in her family waited for me to leave to get into my house - she did have a key that I took back when we broke up, buy maybe she made a duplicate. That or maybe in a blind rage during my sleep I threw it away, but I am one who never moves when I sleep at all, don't sleepwalk. So I'm just trying to get to the bottom of this. Obviously, don't want a woman who hates my guts to have a key to my place.

Probably broke in. Well, it's not breaking in if she has a key. Change your locks.

Is being this big of an asshole during a break up a good thing?

Makes you look like a butthurt fool.

And have you ever experienced an EX breaking / entering into your house?

Not that I'm aware of, but if she has a key, change the locks.

IXseed · 2020-08-30T17:57:05+00:00

Can only speak on the first bit. You just confirmed to her that you were soft. She was disrespecting you in the hopes you'd dump her and when you finally did you gave her all that emotion which is what she really wanted. She conquered you bro.

But yea if you're missing stuff like ppl are saying change your locks and look into some security.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-08-30T18:59:16+00:00

Anyways, the following day, I got really drunk and became vitriolic.

In lieu of grabbing your testicles firmly and telling her "it's over" you were tired of her bullshit and nagging, and she should be packing up at this point.

I think you didn't do this because you believed it just wasn't an option. This is because you thought some given woman was your adoptive mother figure and couldn't be replaced if necessary. Therefore, enter the beta simping and orbiting behaviors.

Instead you decided to get sloppy drunk and then throw a histrionic fit. People typically do this because they want to see themselves as victim. Then they make themselves artificially helpless with booze.

Look. We all need to learn from the school of hard knocks sometimes in order to gain true perspective on our way of thinking.

Just don't do this again, ever.

Breakup first, then have a few beers afterwards if need be, once the job is done. Make sure to turn your phone off and have your bros around if you do this. No matter what you do, stick to your guns.

Wasn't expecting it since I haven't been that drunk or angry in a decade -

You were angry because you thought you didn't have a choice, she couldn't be replaced, and you wanted to see yourself as a victim or like the helpless child. You know, the one you might have been decades ago, but aren't any more.

didn't intend to get that drunk.

Fuck right you did.

You were looking for liquid courage to tell her the dramatic angry crap you'd been repressing for months.

I got really mean with her. I basically told her whoever marries you is a complete dipshit. You ain't worth marrying. She had been hinting at it lately. Told her to come get her shit out of my house the following day since she had moved in over quarantine. Said some other really nasty things to her and went home alone.

Could have been worse.

You weren't wrong about most of the stuff you said. I wouldn't beat yourself up about this too much. Anger is a reasonable response to blatant abuse and disrespect. The only issue here is you probably need more constructive ways of dealing with it, like telling her to leave the house, rather than just suppressing.

Women need to hear this shit. If she deals with relationship conflict by acting like she's going to hop on her old fuck-buddy's knob, she's not close to being ready as wife/mother material. She's an overgrown 14 year old who barely had her first period.

But remember that you played a part in this too, by treating her like she was your mother figure, seeing her as irreplaceable, and believing you couldn't tolerate her leaving if she felt it was necessary for her. This is called a Scarcity Mentality and not seeing yourself as capable of handling adversity.

But she did leave one sole earring at my place, which I noticed after she left. It was on my nightstand. No big deal I thought. Just left it there.

Should have tossed it unless it had actual gold content. Caveat emptor.

But then some weird shit started happening. Her earring is now missing. Don't know where it went. And one of my mason jars went missing too.

Oh well.

So now I am worried that she or someone in her family waited for me to leave to get into my house -

Sounds like that's what she did, just to do a once over without you glaring over her shoulder like mad bastard. It's not like she didn't practically live there before.

Unless she's been prone to taking your shit before this on multiple other occasions, probably shouldn't overthink it. She's not going to steal your car or your guns or credit cards. She's just trying win at the game of who can be the biggest cuntrag towards whom.

Either that or you're stressed out and had a memory glitch. That's more common than most people think.

I'd say just go to the hardware store and change your locks.

she did have a key that I took back when we broke up, buy maybe she made a duplicate.

Sounds likely.

Is being this big of an asshole during a break up a good thing?

It was time.

Right Outcome and mission objective, sloppy execution.

The drinking is a concern. Still, I think most normal people have gotten raging drunk once in their lives. Keeps you humble.

Title	Explosive Break Up
Author	Jahshua
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	August 30, 2020 3:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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