During my anger phase I've developed a dangerous misconception about game. I believed I should behave like a total asshole to girls, and that this would somehow be more attractive and mysterious than being honest about my intentions. As you can imagine, I've been failing comfort tests left and right, making people feel really uncomfortable and only pushing myself further into seclusion. I basically became an arrogant incel (in good shape this time) all over again.

I'm happy to say those days are behind me, as I'm currently several weeks into monk mode and working hard on deconstructing old shitty habits and beliefs. To be honest I'm still very bad at game, but it's important that I stopped lying to myself about it and I'm fully willing to learn.

My problem is that I still keep seeing these girls fairly often, and I have no fucking clue how to behave around them. Most of the girls know my best friends, and when we're in school or go out we often meet up. My alpha friends game them, which is something I'd like to do but can't because I keep breaking frame (they all know me as "the silent guy"), and my beta friends orbit them, and obviously I know better than that. This also applies to friends' girlfriends. It's like I completely forgot what it's like to have female friends in a non-sexual way.

The result is a closed circle of me often sulking around people, which others who don't yet know me notice and it ruins my rep even further.

How do I fix this?