This problem happens all the time with me, and it has ruined several potential relationships I could have had. But the thing is, that my strategy for girls is to have backups if my relationship fails, so I could get with someone else right after if someone breaks up with me, or something goes wrong with the girl I want to be with. What usually ends up happening is that a girl who I like, eventually sees my texts to other girls or I accidentally speak to girls who are friends with the girl I like and her friends tell her. And then of course, the girl I want to be with may think I am a "fuckboy" in which case I am not, but stops taking me seriously.

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I tried doing several things to stop that from happening, like deleting Facebook, and not letting a girl ever use or see my phone. Renaming girl names to boy names on my phone, and trying to not talk to the girl's friends.

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But let's be honest, girls have the government and divorce rape if things go wrong in a marriage (no way I am getting married BTW), so there's nothing wrong with having a backup plan in case a girl goes crazy or whatever; you know how it is. I don't want to be with multiple people or be a "fuckboy" I want to be in a "serious" (not marriage) relationship with one person who I see regularly, but I don't want to be all alone and know absolutely no one if that person leaves, or I decide something isn't right and move on.

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So, does anyone have any suggestions or comments on what I should do to improve my strategy? Any and all help I'll gladly appreciate. Thanks.