I'm fucked up. Don't know why. I'm relatively attractive, good personality, have slept with about 30 women depite not knowing any "game" at all (this is not bragging -- I'm sure you RP masters are in the triple digits, I'm just illustrating that I'm far from an incel) and when I'm comfortable with a woman, I can fuck pretty well (fit, nice cock, good technique).

Here's the problem: my escalation game is weak and when I do manage to drop panties, I'm either rock hard and confident or I'm "in my head" and I get intermittent limp dick. There's definitely a correlation between how hot the girl is (the hotter she is the more I want to fucker her multiple times and so I worry about her impression of me). If she's like a HB5 or below, I don't care about future sex and can just go with the flow.

Now, the reason I care about future sex is because I only really relax and enjoy myself on the 3rd or 4th time having sex when I'm truly getting comfortable, hitting my stride. It's where I want to get with every woman I fuck, but sometimes you only get the one shot.

I came out of a 3 year 'ship 8 months ago, been with 8 women since. Sex with the ex was the best I've ever had and I was truly comfortable, so I'm thinking it has something to do with that. I'm emotionally over her, but I miss the sex. I currently have one plate, very close to establishing a 2nd and maybe 3rd. Plate #1 was cool with my nerves at first and would just suck-stsrt my dick when my insecurities were fucking with me, so I'm lucky there. Now I can just fuck her hard whever she wants it. She'll text me and I'll throw some dick her way.

Thing is, I'm worried that my initial performance problems will keep me from converting the 2nd and 3rd potentials into plates. I compensate for my limp dick by eating pussy. But I'm disappointed in myself when I can't deep dick a woman and then cum myself. Advise.