Dilemma

Yashugan00 · 2016-11-27T16:32:25+00:00

Most communications is not verbal. Since you are consciously describing how you are behaving, it looks like you are experimenting, but this is only making you appear more forced and awkward.

Let's start from the beginning and ignore your recent try hard attempts. Most communication is non verbal, people will be formulating an opinion of you, classifying you before you even open your mouth. Do you look skinny and malnourished, with bags under your eyes? Are you fat and sweating? Are you skinny fat, no muscles, slight belly, but otherwise thin? Then you're already starting with a social credit deficit. You're now catching up.

Your best bet here is: you guessed it: LIFT. Besides the health benefits, there's a whole range of socially beneficial boosts you will get. There's the halo effect, where good looking people are constantly judged to be nicer and more competent that they really are. People will treat you friendlier too.

However, there is one important but: You have to appear a natural. Don't go talking about your new lifestyle to everyone within hearing range. It will turn them off, ask anyone who's friends with a crossfitter or vegan: they will let you know until you're sick of their shit.

Secondly, your environment, you can be a top guy, surrounded by morons, unless you confirm to that group dynamic, you will be perceived inadequate. Judged short of being in their company, but this has no actually bearing on your worth. Inmention this since you find your situation somewhat depressing.

Lifting makes you: Stand taller, look bigger and more imposing, your voice deepens, your walk gait will change, people will always move out the way for you before you have to think about it (this one was very strange to me), you will seem secure, relaxed and incontrol in social settings, your stress impact lessens and your social anxiety mostly disappears.

Title	Dilemma
Author	lifeisnotverygood
Upvotes	1
Comments	1
Date	November 27, 2016 11:55 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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