I posted a few weeks ago about a woman that I've been dating who didn't seem ready for sex although we'd been seeing each other for about 4 months. I don't know how to link to the original post so, very briefly, I'm (M50) divorced for about 6 months and she is (F48) divorce not final. I was not happy that, although we were seeing each other and got naked, there was no full on intercourse.

I posted here and, following the advice given, played some soft dread game -- fewer and shorter messages, some days without contact, etc. Also, continued actively dating other women who I meet thru Match and Tinder. After about a week I see that she viewed me on Match and the next day she sends me a text saying that she sensed things were over between us. I replied that I was interested in seeing her again but that we need to talk. A few days later we did and I told her that I wasn't interested in seeing someone if there wasn't a physical component. She said she was open to that and I mentioned that she expressed some resistance. Well, turns out that was standard LMR which I failed to overcome.

Next day she invites me to an expensive restaurant for dinner to celebrate my birthday. We have a nice dinner, go back to my place and have great sex for 2 hours.

Some lessons: (1) dread game works -- she knew I had options and was willing to walk and (2) escalate through the LMR -- my mistake there.

Thanks to those gave the advice. It worked.