It was something she said at a wedding we were all attending. "Come to think of it I've cheated on every guy I've been with except him [my brother]." It hit me like a ton of bricks; the reddest of flags, and it was too late. My brother had married her 18 months prior (after 8 years of dating & living together), she was well nestled into the family and seemingly sane. I had genuinely liked her and thought she was a great fit for my brother. Her flaws only revealed themselves to me after I had started reading TRP.

She'd bitch and complain about his laziness, about him being out of shape, etc. On top of this she's a financial businesswoman making far more than my brother (and she definitely holds it over him at least to some extent), and therefore is also constantly around guys who are higher smv than my brother. To make matters worse he's way out of shape and she's relatively skinny. We all know what happens next..

It was concerning, but a divorce isn't the end of the world. We'd have more bro time and he'd wake up to the reality. I've heard a quote that "the happiest a man is in life is right after his first divorce." In fact had completely forgotten about it until I got the news that she's now pregnant. It's not just a divorce anymore. I care more about my brother than anyone else in this world. We've maintained a very close relationship and are the only people we can 100% trust without a second thought.

TRP, I don't want this woman to make my brothers life hell, prevent him from seeing his kid(s), rape his wallet, and shit on his quality of life. He doesn't even see it coming. How can I open his eyes to the reality that he walks a fine line and that he needs to get his ass in gear, diet+lift some weights, not take disrespect from her, or risk having a cheating wife?.. Or am I being too paranoid about this?