How do I recover from being placed into a "boyfriend frame"? I met a girl through a friend and moved quickly, got back to her place that same night. She said that she doesn't sleep with guys on the first night and that I had to "earn it"--I took on the role of the hesitant one and it worked brilliantly, she invited me to the bedroom, etc. Unfortunately I had too much to drink and couldn't perform when the opportunity arose. There was heavy petting and I spent the night, but now I've been put into a boyfriend frame. She is eager to meet, but she's gained sexual control of the situation. How do I recover from this? Should I return to being the hesitant one, making her put in the work? Friendzone her? Next her?

I've been in this situation once before and I recovered by playing ball until the girl put out, then ensuring that the sex was very high quality for her while simultaneously being unavailable and aloof. At that point she was eager to have sex and would initiate regularly because she knew I wasn't interested in spending time together if it didn't involve sex. I'm not sure if there's an established strategy or not to deal with this, any help is much appreciated.