I've been having daily sex with a gf recently which I Am completely enjoying but felt I should read this book and man there is a lot of stuff I could do a lot better. I feel I'm already doing some of it right with just trp basics but there are so many areas for improvement that I don't know where to start.

  • I put a decent amount of dominance and variety into my sex with her with various positions, some tie ups, varying my bed her bed or shower etc, ordering her around and pushing her around. I have been putting my pleasure first and never worrying whether she enjoyed it or not, and she has been giving me affection and favors In return.

BUT

  • apparently I need to order her to do blow jobs more

  • I need to do crazy risky sex like at the office/in the car? The last times I tried those a few years ago I got so nervous I couldn't get it up, although I would really love to pull it off nicely.

  • the concept that a single night of really terrible sex could destroy a relationship always haunts me and makes me really nervous during sex, so maybe I should focus on mediation more?

  • some thing can give me ED like too much caffeine, exhaustion from prior exercise like mtn climbing, or having a sore throat or cold that is distracting. I really hate it and am always afraid it might happen randomly, although it's very rare for me.

  • I love doing cunnilingus for the view and the flavors but apparently I am doing it in all the wrong ways

  • I also need to overcome her resistance to anal sex

  • do I need to time my sex to ensure its the right amount of time or a varying amount of time?

Where should I start? And how can I get past the nervousness?