How do you live despite the loss of a parent as an RP male?

webroketheinternet · 2015-03-01T02:48:39+00:00

This is pretty hard. I've lost my mother from Cancer in Janurary and watched two potential plates fall off after bringing it up. I'd be curious as to know what people think?

25russianbear25 · 2015-03-01T07:01:43+00:00

look at it this way, its only a loss if they were there for you... some people have parents that cause harm in their life

My parents are blue pill and feministic, this was a serious strain on my life before i moved out.

You dont have a role model? Neither did i or 1000s of guys out there, never had any brothers, cousins or grandparents around. Life is a bitch and you might as well realize it sooner then later - thats how you deal with it.

[deleted] · 2015-03-01T11:23:44+00:00

never had a dad and my mother was terrible. you have to be your own man. its fuckin hard and i dont know if its worth it but you dont have a choice

you_dont_even_no · 2015-03-01T15:43:31+00:00

I lost my mother 3 days before I turned 18. Symbolically thrown into adulthood right then and there. I became independent in many aspects of my life: cooking, cleaning, transportation. Although I was still dependent financially and emotional, due to naivety and immaturity. I eventually learned that in order to be a the man I wanted to be I had to let go, forgive, mourn, accept, whatever you want to call it. Now, I would have to say I am far more independent than many of my peers, in the sense I don't have to look to anyone for answers, advise, PERMISSION. I literally do whatever the fuck I want. I struggled for the first year (a little the second year). But TRP is about struggle and the fight to get the the other side. I live as a "transforming" RPiller, still young and figuring life out, but I don't have my momma's love. I'm now ok with that. Independence, and manhood is a cold road. The best map is not the one your parents tell you tid-bit by tid-bit, but rather the one you make yourself.

justskatedude · 2015-03-01T05:46:11+00:00

Similar situation. My dad died when I was 12 from heart disease. It really fucked me up and probably contributed to my depression/anxiety/social isolation/etc...

It took a while but I ended up hitting rock bottom and instead of suicide, I told myself I may as well give it one last shot. After all, Africans would kill for the opportunity I have so why not make the most of my life?

I cut ties with many people in my life. Everyone who was toxic got cut out completely or i distanced myself. That includes my mother. I adopted a "me first" attitude and stopped caregiving. At the end of the day, the only person I care about is myself. All others have disappointed me or caused me pain in the past.

You no doubt have suffered, so have I. I believe that greatness only comes from pain. I've experienced so much pain in my life that I will make sure my kids and grandkids never will have to. I'm ruthless. I once cared too much about too many people but not anymore. I like to think there are good people out there but the reality is it is kill or be killed. People like you for what you have and what you can be to them. Stop living a life and start making your life. It's nice knowing suicide is an option, because it gives me a healthy appreciation for life. I could go on and on but I don't want to bore you. PM me or ask any questions if you want.

Title	How do you live despite the loss of a parent as an RP male?
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Date	March 1, 2015 2:34 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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