Do I need help on improving casual conversations???

rockmasterflex · 2014-10-18T07:36:14+00:00

Having the conversation focus on you, and driving the conversation yourself, these things can only work in your favor.

Its pure social proof you're just more interesting than these people. Especially if all they talk about is shit on TV.

paynehouse · 2014-10-18T07:55:40+00:00

You're not alone. You're probably an introvert like myself. I don't mind talking to people, it's just that if they don't have anything meaningful to say then I'd rather be by myself. Most intellectuals are like this. I find it difficult to find the same joy in a conversation about mindless gossip as I do in a conversation about science/phil. It's just hard to talk to people if they're only talking about dumb shit.

OG-Wyze · 2014-10-18T08:25:32+00:00

My personal preference is deep and intellectual conversation, usually on a more philosophical, psychological or scientific nature. All in all, a conversation which contributes to my own growth and development. These however are incredibly rare, and I've gotten quite good at casual conversation.

In order to be good at this you need to be knowledgeable about a lot of things, just a broad diversity of topics. You ask questions as to give you ideas about what the others are interested in, then using what you know you relate to them building rapport, and creating possible friendships. These friendships can later be used to call in favours, this is why casual conversation is important. (Unless you want a blue collar job and favours aren't important for you or favours like will you help me move) I mean favours which makes use of their position of power. In some cases considering their position these people will be intelligent and you can discuss politics and science etc... in a casual format.

Prepare for yourself a series of life experience stories, stories you can share with others which will in no way tarnish your reputation or standing within the community, feel free to embellish if you need to. This makes them feel as if they know you, and has you come across as interesting and having an active life.

Generally I don't like most people, the idea is to find the minority and build friendships with them. The only way you will get better is with practice.

Start on reddit if you feel more comfortable, if you like pm me and we can have a go at it, Unless you absolutely bore me or become as waste of time I will continue to respond.

I understand how it can feel like a chore, It did for me as well at some point, but I tend to make the most of it and just enjoy the flow of things.

Best of luck with your endeavors, whatever it is you may choose.

oldredder · 2014-10-19T23:03:06+00:00

To those other people those are the only things that do matter. Some people can never rise above, that's the best life will ever be.

You're anti-social.

You're also probably smarter than most people around you.

There's no cure for this except to get hit in the head & suddenly have a lot less important things to do or think about then suddenly dumb things to talk about won't seem dumb.

You can't ever get dumb people to talk about smart-people topics / contexts. Plans, strategies, theories on how life will change & our place in it. That's beyond them, like explaining physics to puppies.

My personal take on the situation - since mine is identical - is to spend a marginal amount of my time looking at the things (like memes) that entertain the Stupids, then play at them in conversation with their memes until I decode them. I get them "debating" each other on nonsense, showing various levels of emotion & thought, map it all out, and move on. There's nothing more there.

These are a simpler class of people that simply can not be expected to perform at your level.

Thankfully as for TRP/here there's only one real goal: get the women opening their legs & the men out of your way.

You're going to need to show less contempt for the women's contemptable amount of stupidity in that group if you want sex out of them. You can't let any superior value you have also be conveyed in arrogance, disrespect or contempt, merely that you have higher value & it's up to that girl / those women to find out by going along with you.

If you're not even gaming women in this group... it's off topic here generally but even so, you need to know you're not wrong. You're just better.

It's no different than being more fit, more muscular, and having others around you fail to even realize why that might be good/better and themselves... having no interest, no concept of it, and thinking you're a dick for ever focusing on it or talking about it.

tepper2 · 2014-10-18T16:33:29+00:00

If you're not happy with your social interactions, it's your fault, and you need to fix that. Learn how to guide a conversation so that you can steer it into more meaningful discussion.

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Title	Do I need help on improving casual conversations???
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Date	October 18, 2014 6:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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