I read a lot of RP material and managed to hold onto a HB8 for 4 months so far (LTR). Everything was going great until I let her start staying over at my house almost every night. I kind of let my social life go and focused on work, so she would just come over before I went to bed. Things were going "good" for a little over a month, but I think the betaization/oxytocin got to me. The last two weeks were her getting dinner with friends and just coming over to sleep with sex slowing down to every couple of days. I saw what was happening but kind of got "greedy" with the beta feelings (still a beta at heart i guess). Anyways, I even stopped going to the gym (felt too weak/tired to lift) and last week I got super jealous and retarded over some text she was sending (for like 4 days in a row). Finally this last week she said she was staying home one night. I called her the next day and she answered the phone & told me to text her when I got home but never replied when I texted her. It's been a couple days now.

So, I obviously kind of know what happened here and need to do a better job of being proactive next time. I lost major frame and went full on beta. Seriously, I have no idea what is happening to my body right now - bash on me for this, but I actually haven't even wanted to have sex, just cuddle - oxytocin/low t levels ?!

I know she's probably out looking for other dick & she just got off her period, so this is kind of worrying, but not much I can do about it. Right now I am going no contact while I work hard in the gym, go out with the boys, and get enough sleep. I'm doing the no contact more to catch up on gym&sleep than to get her back, but...

1.) How long should I be soft nexting for? Some people say wait until she contacts me and others say a couple days -> week. Any opinions and reasons why? I was thinking of waiting until I felt like myself, I don't want to come off as butthurt or reactive (e.g. if I don't text at all)

2.) When she calls me out on it, I don't admit anything was/is wrong. Something like "Just been catching up on gym/work/sleep". Would it be ok to throw in something like "Felt like we both needed to catch up on gym/sleep, we were both feeling like shit last week" or do I really want to avoid explaining. Do I need to be more ambiguous to instill dread? Any suggestions?

3.) Is it impossible for me to stay alpha & enjoy cuddling every night? I'm like a completely different person right now. How the fuck is she sleeping alone right now (or is she not haha), I feel like I'm going through cocaine withdraw.