I'm a 35 year old man with a beautiful 31 year old wife of 5 years. I have a beautiful one year old daughter, unfortunately she has put an incredible strain on our sex life for nearly the last two years. We went from enthusiastic sex several times a week to pity sex once a month while she was pregnant until now. Last month we found out that my wife became pregnant and I'm looking at another two year stretch of sex once a month if I'm lucky.

I've been through this before so I know what I'm in for. I'm trying to be supportive by doing the bulk of cooking, cleaning and child care, but the last straw was when my wife once again refused sex and told me she was too tired/work stress, but we hung out with her cousins until midnight with our one year old since they came from out of town.

I'm not an impatient man, however looking at a nearly 4 year streak of pity sex once a month if I'm lucky has me sympathizing with cheaters. I've talked to her about my sexual frustration, but she hasn't really done anything with that information. I don't want to consider cheating on my wife, but I'm running out of ideas. I bought a VR headset today hoping this will calm down my sex drive, but what do I do for the next two years or possibly more?