So we have sex all the time. I mean, she'll have sex almost everyday and it's pretty good. That said, I'll normally get her off first at least once. Sometimes it's 2, 3 or even four times. She'll almost always orgasm during sex by aiding herself. It's just, man, like she's gotten me off may 2 or 3 times in the several years. It's just kind of annoying and damn it'd be great.

Also, last relationship was for almost ten years and it was quite similar. Sometimes I'd give her 5 orgasms but then never get one from her.

Is this a common thing? I know it's pissy but goddamn, in any other type of relationship in the world people give and take. Is this all on me?

Any advice would be welcome. My guess is y'all are going to say "Just tell her to do it". Is that it?

Thanks.