A few months back my ex cheated on me. I never had direct evidence but my suspicions were really strong and I cut her off and broke up with her. She spent a few weeks asking for me back and luckily I resisted and told her no.

Eventially she sends me a text one day and she’s now with the guy I had suspected that she cheated on me with. She then told me plainly that she did in fact cheat. After that I blocked her on everything and have been trying to get over her.

My question is “is revenge worth it?” I wouldn’t plan on doing anything illegal but I just feel so slighted that this is only thing that makes it fair now.

Second, why am I so butt hurt about this? Maybe it’s because I invested so much time into her to see her do well in life. She’s 22 and has spent 4 years trying to get past freshman level in college because she fails all of her classes so I would help her with studying and tests. She also has a STD that I still accepted her for and that I luckily don’t have (I got tested after three break up).

I feel like I invested a lot into someone just to have it thrown back in my face and be so disrespected.

Any advice on how to move on, get past revenge and let the whole thing go? My mind keeps dwelling on this no matter what I try to do to get it off of this.

Thanks