tldr got drunk and flirted with a new girl infront of my long time plate. got mixed signals and she went all cold on me and it was something I was unfamiliar with. maybe cuz I was drunk, who knows.

Saturday night, college football game. Invited by a girl I dated, broke things off with over the summer, reconnected on FWB status over the summer and continued things on with as the academic year started. From South America, 19, paints, reads, virgin when I met her, cute and absolutely busts her ass in school. More than once she's declined and invite because she's stressing over a coming exam. I respect her work ethic and her attitude towards adventurous things and she's my go-to to bring on roadtrips etc. She's hinted at being monogamous lately, asking if I'm seeing anyone else as well as twitter stalking a girl from my work that she has absolutely no connection to. When confronted she said she got the girls twitter handle off my top snapchat friends. I take these as indicators of interest. We'll refer to her as P1.

P1 invites me to the game and informs me she's bringing a mutual friend, Ashley. I tell her I'm going with my friends and we can meet up at the game. My buddy, another buddy and his girlfriend all ride up together and take a few shots in the car before heading to the stadium where we run into P1 and Ashley outside and I'm spotted by another girl I invited that I had just met in class, P2. P2 has shown high interest and lives on campus by the stadium so I had shot her a text while we rode up.

P1 has never seen me buzzed/drunk before and is acting noticeably distant and standoffish. At our seats, she's on my left and P2 is on my right. I talk with P1 a bit but as I said, she's acting aloof and it's off putting. I wrap my arm around her waist to pull her into a kiss but she's resistant so I immediately back off. Her friends, including Ashley, don't know we still see eachother in secret so I took it for what it was. My desire was to sneak off with her to get some action at some point, so I told her, "Hey, I want to grab some dippin' dots. come with me." She responds, "I don't feel like it. You're being really obnoxious and over the top tonight. What's wrong with you?"

"Alright."

I turn to P2, whom I've been ignoring while her and my buddies get acquainted on the other side of me since I'm directly in the middle of our group. "Hey, I'm gonna go grab some dippin' dots. Come with me."

I stand up and she follows, we walk past P1 and off to get some icecream. We just chat a bit and I saw a Chik-fil-a stand so I grabbed a sandwich in addition to my ice cream and head back to our seats.

I chat up P2 for a while, and she pulls my arm across her body and starts stroking it with her hand. Feels fuckin good, bro. Like a back rub on your arm.

As half time nears I take my arm back and turn back to P1, who's noticeably more friendly. The friendliness is welcome and I pull her in for a kiss. No resistance this time, I don't notice whether or not P2 notices the kiss but she doesn't say anything so I don't care. I'm thirsty now so I tell P1 I want to go get a drink, and to sneak off with me.

She responds, "I want to see the halftime show. after, ok?"

I stare at her.

Her: Yes?

A few seconds.

Her: Yes?

Me: Say it in spanish.

Her: Si?

Me: [exaggerated sigh] Si.

Herp derp halftime show, we go to get a drink. We're standing in line and her hand is touching mine, I turn to her and look her in the eyes. "What" she says. I respond my bringing my hand to the back of her neck and pulling her in to a kiss, raising my other hand to the other side of her neck because I vaguely remembered reading some guys TRP post talking about how he makes out the other day. She doesn't resist.

I get my drink and continue walking, we go outside to a roped off smoking area.

She looks at me and asks, "What are you on? You're being so... over the top. It's obnoxious."

"What? I'm on HYPE baby!" I kiss her again.

She asks me what I'm on again, I dismiss it and we walk back to our seats. Her hand lingers in mine but she pulls away as we near the group.

My friends bounce just after halftime, leaving P1, P2, and P1's friend and myself. I flirt with P2 some more and am feeling up on her thighs and shit, when she tells me she's going back to her dorm because she's tired and wants to watch Netflix. She invites me along.

"I want to finish the game. Stay for the last couple of quarters."

Her: "I'm tiredddddddd."

Me: "Fine, go. I'll text you after the game and I'll come watch Netflix."

Her: ok

P2 leaves. Cue P1 immediately becoming distant and standoffish and resistant to any physical advances again. This continues for the rest of the game. We leave and walk to her car (she parked close and I parked on the opposite side of campus), and I get in. I shoot P2 a text saying I'm on my way to her dorm, and I get a response within a minute.

"I don't think you want to watch Netflix. Lets get lunch Monday. Goodnight!" I don't respond.

A few days prior I had mentioned to P1 I had to attend a play for class and she said she'd like to join me. So on the car ride over I mention to her, "Hey. There's a play tomorrow."

"What time?

"Two, so I'll see you then."

"Can I think about it?"

"About what?" (wish I woulda said "Nope!")

"Whether I want to go or not."

"Why?"

"I have a lot of studying."

"Ohok let me know tonight."

A tad annoyed I am now, but no closer to being sober. P1's friend reminisces about the time we met, and how I gave her advice on her relationship. P1 chimes in," Yeah, his advice always sucks."

Me: "Excuse me? My relationships have all worked out."

Her friend gestures at me, then at P1.

p1: "I don't remember us being together."

Me: "Sounds like a win, I get all the good shit and I don't have to be exclusive."

P1's friend: "Woah."

P1: crickets.

We arrive at my car. I exit, she rolls her window down. I lean in to kiss her, she's unresponsive. Coldly, I say, "Yeah. Let me know."

I feel kind of shitty after that so I drive to a previously obsessive plate's house. While I'm pounding her my phone dings, and to be honest I'm not enjoying it because all I can think of is P1's coldness. I finish and check my phone.

"I don't think I'm gonna go tomorrow."

Me: "?"

Her: "i have a lot to study for"

I give her a call. She tells me she was acting weird all night because I was being "so over the top and obnoxious." I said alright, that's fine, I'll see you next week.

That's my story reddit, not as TRP as I wanted it to be because I worried about that girl all Sunday. I took the obsessive girl to the play with me instead and we had a good time. P1 and I had made plans before the game to ride the metro system in the downtown and check out some nearby parks on Monday. That's today. I'm supposed to meet her in less than an hour as I type this. I'm just gonna act like things are normal. Stoicism, right? I thought really hard about canceling on her, because she told me she would go to the play and then sort of bailed (with fair warning.) But it seems petty, not something a TRP man would do. Plus I really want to ride the train.

Feedback is welcome. I vented to some friends and they gave me some shitty ass advice ("just talk to her man! tell her how you feel! ask her that!") so I decided to come seek you guys.