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Sorry for my bad English!

I am married and I know my wife from past 4 years, I got married to her almost 2 years back. Prior to that we were into a committed relationship. We love each other a lot, at least I do. Anyways, just after getting married, she had conflicts with my mother, she doesn't want to live with her, she abused her, she said things to her and my family also reciprocated back. It was a stressful time and I wasn't able to tackle the situation because I didn't understood what's the fuss is all about and why they are fighting over pity things.

Whenever I get in between them, I get ridiculed and then I have nothing but to cry and being angry on them. I was in a tug of war. Both my wife and my mother told me that I am not taking a stand. And one day I decided to part ways, so I got separated from my family and I got my own house. I was living happily with my wife, love was there, sex was good, everything was good, but for only 2-3 months after we got a new house.

We used to fight a lot their too. That made her severely depressed and she has to undergo psychiatric treatment. She developed a full blown psychosis + OCD.

Now here is one thing that I got to know last year, which I was slightly aware of before marrying her. When she was young, around 18, she got fixated on a guy, it was one sided. She got so obsessed with him that it converted into OCD, she became psychotic. She has to go with regular ECT and medication, that continued for years. She didn't convey her feelings to him because of family pressure, she kept it inside her. She was severely depressed that time. And that love/infatuation converted into an OCD. As per doctor reports she responded very well to medication and got treated, but she continuously took medications. I didn't knew this until I got married.

Now those fights with me, those stressful moments made her go into the past again and her OCD + psychosis had redeveloped again. She started feeling for that guy again. And once again, it's all one sided. She still cares for me, she do things for me, she cooks food for me, she sends me gifts, she call me more than 10 times a day, she kisses me daily but when it comes to intimacy and love, she ignores me like hell, she keeps looking at that guy's picture, she talks about him every now and then, she keeps checking his Facebook profile, she even asked me to send him a friend request and what not. She has become unromantic towards me, her love for me has diminished. Sometimes, she thinks I am her enemy and I got in between them. We haven't had sex since past 6 months.

How should I tackle this situation ?