I dont understand. Im in a pretty sucky dryspell rn for whatever reason, but thinking back i have noticed, that the times most girls showed more overt interest in me was when i cared the least, and focused the least on actually pursuing getting laid. How come? on the flipside, often when i mess something up with a girl, its because i wasnt aloof as usual. I dont know how to put it better in words, but how can this be the case? im quite young btw, 18 yo male