I feel like I don't deserve sex and happiness

vandaalen · 2019-03-09T22:33:19+00:00

it's just your bitch brain telling lies to you.

it is constantly trying to predict the future in order to maximize the odds of your survival. it absolutely loves situations it already experienced, because their outcome is easier to predict. this is what is known as the comfort zone.

your brain will trick you into staying there with all the bulshit it can come up with. it's really frsutrating sometimes.

in your case, your comfort zone is not being successful with women. your brain likes it that way, however you might conciously think about it.

there is no other way than to ignore it. no way around it. you will have to push through it in the same way that you have to push through in order to breack your lifting records.

it's also not worth shooting yourself in the head. it's just something you will have to learn.

there are more than enough guides available on how to start slowly with approaching women. i am pretty sure there should be something on r.seduction

performance in bed isn't something you should be worried about. the worst that can happen is that you do it as lame as all the rest. no shame. just get better at it. i assume you didn't start your squats with 500lbs as well.

Gruss_p · 2019-03-09T21:24:46+00:00

I think that girls expect a good looking and fit guy to be sexually experienced

If you are really good looking I'm pretty sure they don't care. You can always say something like you had to take break from girls for one/two years to focus on yourself and it's why you are little nervous of having sex. All I know is that "ugly unexperienced = creepy weirdo" while "handsome unexperienced = cute"

[deleted] · 2019-03-09T23:54:40+00:00

Hey brother, I get you. Stick around here. It’s going to be hard, but so was lifting.

Remember that it takes a long time and a lot of discomfort to get big or strong. Same here. Avoid incel subs. Those are crabs in a bucket. Stick around here. It’s tough here, but we lift each other up.

Shoot me a PM if you need to get stuff off your chest or whatever. My advice is I want you to learn how to smile and laugh in public, around women. That should help you start to relax. Then I want you to try cold opening random guys just for a random conversation. Get comfortable putting yourself out there.

rasraskolnikow · 2019-03-10T03:02:13+00:00

Hi man, you are not alone. I'm your age, have severe OCD for 12 years, nothing helps (medicaments, therapy, hospitalization), shit financial situation (IT guy, but troubles to work caused by ocd), shit family situation, there is nothin that I'm happy from but the gym results. Only working out keep me a little motivated. Had few girl, done with them all of the stuff I wanted (anal, deep throat, spanking etc) and believe me - it doesn't matter, there is no impact to my life. I see from another guys from TRP that there is common truth, that sex isn't magic button to start a better life. This is the same situation like you had with working out, but once you achieved your body goal, in result it didn't matter.

It's great you have perfect body and looking, you are ahead 1000 miles from another guys.

Now you need to (except you already do) focus on your professional carrier, money. When you have some financial stabilization, just go and hit any girl. You can start even with HB3, make a fool from you but this experience, even mistake, will develop your courage. You know, that works like building muscles, you have to make a stress on your body feom heavy work out to rebuild new muscles.

PS: one of my ocd sympthom is self-punishment, for example if I buy something for me I have to throw it away, if I create some code on computer I have to remove it. Consider visiting teraphist.

Good luck.

Title	I feel like I don't deserve sex and happiness
Author	heisenbergg91
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	March 9, 2019 9:18 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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