Alright guys so I'm still in the recovery process and been desperately trying to get her out of my head and I can say that I managed to decerase the mood swings frequency and be able to improve myself. I stopped fapping and quit cigarettes, hit the gym thrice a week, ate healthy...etc etc and now I got me a date with a girl from my social circles. She added me on Facebook and we chatted a little. Tried getting her on a hangout twice but they both failed cuz she already had plans and 2 weeks after since the second try (that's yesterday), I hit her up and we agreed to meet today for a beer.

I used to be a god in this kind of situations. I made it my groundhog day. Hanged out with so many girls before my ex and I was overall doing a great job. But because of what happened with her, my confidence has shattered and I'm really feeling like shit. I've become so self-conscious about speaking with other people and really awkward. The last date I had with a girl was 6 months ago. So I'm asking advice on how to be "in the moment" again and how to bring random shit from the top of my head. Usually I use her conversation cues as fuel for the conversation but I'm feeling like I'll be giving her all the validation she's seeking.

Any advice would be appreciated.