This happens to me quite a bit. I go out, meet a girl, get her number, then try to get her to meet up. She side steps the question but keeps in touch. I do some background checking and turns out she has a bf, who has lower smv than I do. However she never mentions bf and often just says friend.

So basically she's looking for an upgrade, but not comfortable enough to ditch her current guy for a night out with me. Got it. There is still negative stigma against cheating and all the cognitive dissonance that comes with it. Plus, who am I rite? Am I just gonna pump and dump? While her bf is probably Mr. Consistent?

Anyways, once I discover this, I usually throw the girl on the back burner. In my experience generally she'll hit me up the when things go sour with her bf.

But being the part psycho I am, I like to play some games. My goal is to facilitate the souring process and create more dissonance in her head. I like to keep the thought of me around just enough in her head (kinda like how celebrities) try to stay relevant. Just kinda remind her every once in awhile that this is what you could have. Basically anytime there's drama with her bf, thought of me will pop up.

Unfortunately I don't really use social media so I can't just ask for her insta and stay relevant that way. Snapchat maybe, that'll get me a chance to send her pics of me every once in awhile, especially some suggestive ones if I can like when I'm in a pool or something.

What do you guys do with girls that are shady about their current relationship status?