So far this year I have been struggling to spin or even attain plates. Mind you, I started lifting in December and before that, I had an n acount of more than 10. Considering my age, and relative to the n count of my extended social circle this is more than average. I have also managed to get a better barber, as I have recieved multiple compliments after I got my haircut. I have also improved my fashion sense, when I post outfits on Instagram, or when I meet up with my friends they never fail to validate my choice of clothing. Besides from my percieved increase in SMV, I am getting less girls than usual. My game is fundamentally the same, if not improved due to my experiences in rejection. Here is a field report of my latest rejection:

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I was in a soup kitchen that was run by three of my age mates. Two of whom were in a couple, so the third one was accustomed to third wheeling. Obviously, I knew that I will eventually be talking to the girl as I would spend the entire day with the group. As I was handling my business, I was surprised when the girl would come close to me or walk with me when I was working. I took this (as most people would) as an invitation to open. Already I had made friends with everyone in the group, everyone was laughing at my jokes, and I gave value to the people around me. Now the girl was giving heavy IOI's, every time I said something that was not even supposed to be a joke, she would smile or laugh So during the break I had a one on one talk with her where she kept showing IOI's. At lunch, I asked if she would like to walk with me. She agreed and we headed to a nearby park. I started to physically escalate and use push-pull. In retrospect, I may have framed the situation wrong, as it looked as if I was trying to get her, besides from vice versa. In any case, we started hugging and cuddling, but when I went in for the kiss she said "no.." and pulled away with a slight smile (I'm not sure but I would not read into the smile too much). I said "cool I don't care" trying to eradicate any form of neediness. We continued to cuddle for a bit then left after lunch was over. Internally I was beating myself up but I exuded an atmosphere of "I couldn't care less if you wanted to get with me or not". At least that's what I felt as I continued our conversations normally afterward. Later on, I asked for her snap, which she gave. One or two days afterward I texted her and she left me on read.

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What I think is that due to me not kissing her, she may have taken me for a beta despite her initial rejection. Maybe she wanted me to keep pushing. Another thing I noticed is that there was a lack of shit tests. This could mean she already thought I was alpha or she already thought I was beta and did not need to test, and due to the rejection it is most likely she thought I was the latter. Although I would like to ask why she would have that preconceived notion.

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I'm not sure if this example is enough for you fellow red pillers to help me with my situation, but any help or feedback would be appreciated.