before I begin, I am open to all constructive criticism, emotional driven comments and viewpoints that weaken or strength my psychological analysis. I am a 21y/o African American male, a college student, someone who became so intrigued with why humans behave in ways that's are difficult to comprehend.
Intro I first created a spreadsheet that exhibited the traits of each gender. Male|Female :-: Dominance|Submissive aggression|innocence Power|Beauty and so forth The problem with this is that. I realized myself what I truly love about myself. I love power, I love feeling dominate; however, there is times I love to be free. there are times I come home from the gym, look in the mirror, and say "damn I’m hot as fuck." the problem occurs because people tend to mix liberation and beauty with feminism. who’s to say that the traits listed is what is meant to be? we all follow this societal gender norm.

Story Back when I had a fwb earlier in college there were days where I absolutely dominated. it consisted of slapping. choking, throwing her around like a rag-doll (oh how I loved it). then there came a day where she told me to close my eyes. I was uncomfortable at first because I was losing control, I was not leading the encounter, I was to become blind. So, I closed my eyes. I felt my belt buckle unfasten followed by the sound of my jeans sliding down my legs. Then i was falling backwards, with a pillow catching the back of my head. It felt so good. she was in control, she gave me such an amazing blowjob. So if women are attracted to dominance, why was so wet and excited and she took control and gave me such an amazing blowjob( also this girl had an orgasm every time we had sex, we went multiple rounds, I truly enjoyed my time with her.)

We are not enjoying sex My past sexual encounters haven't been the best. Actually, till this day, that blow job I received(and the sex proceeding it) was the best sexually encounter I had, and yes I’ve had quite a few after that day with other women. I began dating another girl who was more physically attractive than any girl I’ve been with. when I came down to the sex, it wasn't that great. I can feel that we were only having sex because we were dating, and we were only dating to fit the social circle. I admit, I was desperate at the time, i always wanted sex from her, it gave me Validation. at the time it felt amazing. she had such a low body count, she was beautiful and nice and seemed very loyal. She was someone I could brag to my friends, she gave me confidence. this is where I began to lose my frame and became so desperate and ugly. (you know how this story turned out.)

Conclusion Why was I able to enjoy sex more with someone less physically attractive? Because I loved myself. I was not desperate, it was not something I needed but something I wanted to share. I didn't care what she thought of me, I always shared what I thought of her. Even though she was very promiscuous, I didn't care the sex was fun.

why aren’t women enjoying sex? They are almost never free. they choose who they have sex with and face judgment especially when it comes to their sexual selection. That’s why you have to be perfect. as a male, when i experience anxiety I can never get a full hard on, I actually get turned off. Now think about women, why has it been so difficult to find what turns them on for most people, when they actually do want a sexual encounter they think of the consequences. Even if they have sex with "Chad" their losing purity, and if they can’t get chad to commit, that’s a permanent scar because us men continue to ridicule promiscuity in women. what’s so bad about women who like sex? nothing. your probably mad there not having sex with you.

Women enjoy sex with high valuable men because, the higher the value determines the less societal judgment. This is when they are free to not think about life and enjoy sex for what it is.

men just love sex in generally because mostly each sexually counter with a beautiful female is a gain. if it was not, we most likely will hide our sexual emotions, not even look at women and feel disgusted when we want to have sex and get hated for it.

this is why women hate desperation, you haven't given her the time to test how valuable you are. Also you haven't given yourself the time make yourself valuable.